Ok, apparently all the posting about non-relevant things are getting in the way and making this way more difficult than it is, so I'll try to clear it up a little.
I was married to the older 2 childrens dad. We were military. Last duty station was Ft. Sam in Texas. After our divorce, I moved to Kansas. A few years ago, I moved back to Texas, met the 19mo olds father. We dated for a little over a year. In that time, we had the baby. We stopped living together but were still dating right after the baby was born (there were issues in relationship about what constituted cheating and what didnt. Apparently, an online affair was not cheating to him, but it was to me.) We agreed to start custody and child support proceedings to protect BOTH of us, as we were not married, and had seen numerous friends get screwed because of a lack of any agreement. We were going to counseling and working those issues out when my older children accused him molestation. I cut off all ties right then and there, even with his baby, as was ordered by child protective services. Up until that point, he was seeing the child every week. Baby was 3 months old when the allegations came up. Police report was filed in November of 2012, investigation was not even closed until Feb. and sent to the DA for prosecution until March of 2013. DA did not receive all the evidence until June of 2013. Unfortunately. the county we are in is backlogged when it comes to cases being presented to the grand jury, and there was a huge capital murder case in there as well. I keep in contact with the DA, and have been told that it is scheduled to go this month, as they have finally gotten somewhat caught up. Now, right after CPS closed their case, our custody went to court (April 2013). At that time, he was given 1 hour of supervised visitation every other week and it was made temporary because of the pending criminal charges. My husband and I started dating at that time. In August, we got married. He is NOT military, he worked for the State, which is how we met and became friends many years ago. Was it quick, yes. We went back to court in October, and again in January (2014), and it goes to a final hearing in July. Because the criminal case had not gone to indictment yet, the orders remained temporary. His visits did get upped to 2 hours though. Yes, I offered to up the visits, not IF we can move, but when we move, simply because I know that it will be difficult for either one of us to make that kind of trip every other weekend. This move puts us 8 hours away, and he has a newborn.
Clear things up a little??
This time can we keep the questions relevant to my question please. I get it, some of you think that I have horrible judgement or that what I did/offered was stupid, or that I didnt protect my other kids. Thanks for making me feel ****tier than I already feel about the situation. I am simply trying to do whats right for ALL of my children. While I dont agree with him getting visitation, I understand that he is innocent until proven guilty, and am doing my best to follow what the courts deemed appropriate.
