What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? North Carolina
I was divorced in MA and live in NC.
I have joint custody of my 13 year old but since I live out of state do not get to visit as much as I would like. When I moved out of state I hired an attorney to modify my visitation so I would see my daughter every other Christmas. every other school vacation and for 1 week during the summer. In hindsight I wish I had requested more of the summer but did have my daughter for 2 weeks this past summer. I pay my child support and more. I also used to speak with my daughter a minimum of 3 days a week but have now been cut to one day if I am lucky. The first visit to NC my attorney had to go to court because the ex tried to have a therapist claim that the child should not visit with the father because of her fear of me (BTW I had a great relationship for the previous 3 years prior to moving) The original agreement when I moved was for her to fly with me paying the cost but the 13 year old has developed a phobia about flying. The solution is the ex drives 380 miles and I drive 470 so I can pick her up and I pay for the ex's gas. The child enjoys her visits
Since I moved to NC in 2007 I have never had a Christmas with my daughter. In 2007 She came down on the 26th of December (my first Christmas in NC) Per the agreement I gave the ex written confirmation of my intent to exercise my 2009 Christmas visitation. My 13 year old has informed me that she will come but she wants to be home at her house Christmas morning. The ex is trying to bribe her but the 13 year old is digging in her heels. I want my daughter with me on Christmas and the ex says she is trying everything to coerce her to go on the visit. I have let the 13 year old know I want her with me at her home here and that is what her Mom and Dad agreed. I unfortunately have limited monetary resources along with other responsibilities which include my wife and the 13 year olds 2 younger half sisters (which she adores them and they adore her). I don't know what to do. I have been stern with the 13 year old and her mother acts like she is trying. Any advice would be helpful.