What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oregon
I have a 4 year old daughter from a previous relationship. We were never married. She lives with her mother in Washington and I live in Oregon. I have a parenting plan that averages to about 60 overnights plus additional visitation when they visit Oregon, which is often because they have a lot of family here and lived here until about 2 years ago.
I found that my daughter's mother is now engaged to her boyfriend of about 4 months, who just left for basic training in the Army in August. They plan on marrying this December. I'm very concerned about her trying to move my daughter farther away and want to be as prepared as possible.
What should I do in preparation for their move? She will know by November where her fiance will be stationed following his training. It is important for me to keep at least the time I have now, even if the plan is restructured but I am certainly interested in increasing time too. I would love to have full custody, but I'm aware of the fact that I am at a financial disadvantage since my daughter's mother comes from a wealthy family who pays for her legal fees. I am very close with my daughter and both her maternal grandparents and my mother live in Oregon as well as other extended family that she is close too. I really believe it is in her best interest to remain in this area and her mother has not provided a stable living situation for her nor maintained steady employment. She relies on her family for support and has gone from living with her parents in Oregon to her grandparents in Washington, therefore moving away from this area would greatly change their living situation since they would not be near family.
My plan states that she is supposed to give me reasonable notice before a move more that 60 miles away and that we are supposed to seek mediation before filing litiigation. Do I go ahead and try to seek mediation before she officially notifies me of her move? Can I go ahead and get paperwork started since they are anticipating a move? Thanks in advance for any advice.
I have a 4 year old daughter from a previous relationship. We were never married. She lives with her mother in Washington and I live in Oregon. I have a parenting plan that averages to about 60 overnights plus additional visitation when they visit Oregon, which is often because they have a lot of family here and lived here until about 2 years ago.
I found that my daughter's mother is now engaged to her boyfriend of about 4 months, who just left for basic training in the Army in August. They plan on marrying this December. I'm very concerned about her trying to move my daughter farther away and want to be as prepared as possible.
What should I do in preparation for their move? She will know by November where her fiance will be stationed following his training. It is important for me to keep at least the time I have now, even if the plan is restructured but I am certainly interested in increasing time too. I would love to have full custody, but I'm aware of the fact that I am at a financial disadvantage since my daughter's mother comes from a wealthy family who pays for her legal fees. I am very close with my daughter and both her maternal grandparents and my mother live in Oregon as well as other extended family that she is close too. I really believe it is in her best interest to remain in this area and her mother has not provided a stable living situation for her nor maintained steady employment. She relies on her family for support and has gone from living with her parents in Oregon to her grandparents in Washington, therefore moving away from this area would greatly change their living situation since they would not be near family.
My plan states that she is supposed to give me reasonable notice before a move more that 60 miles away and that we are supposed to seek mediation before filing litiigation. Do I go ahead and try to seek mediation before she officially notifies me of her move? Can I go ahead and get paperwork started since they are anticipating a move? Thanks in advance for any advice.
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