What is the name of your state? wisconsin. My 12 year old going on 13 is refusing to go to the father's because of their ugly relationship. He tells her she has to go with him half time because it is court ordered. I have asked her to let him know of what she intends to do so he does not get irritated coming to her school as he has to drive and then finding out she is gone. I am not home usually in the afternoon. She has not been going sinceThanksgiving. I want to know how this will look in court. The father comes to my house and either sends in the 14 year old boy to talk with her or she goes to him and talks. He has left her here. He has called her and used the same style of threatening techniques. She has never wanted to go there and until recently neither has the 14 year old. She has reason and that is his aggression and anger management issues. The school is aware as they have been the brunt of this also. She is a young woman to look at. She is too old and big for me to do anything where I can physically force her. I know I have to go back to court but I don't have the funds. I just paid off 14,000 and now another 5,000 to go. I have been fighting this battle with all my kids since the beginning in 1993. It never ends. I have tried to be more forceful and now she is running. She now goes to a friends house after school without telling me to keep from dealing with the father at school as he picks her up. The situation is getting worse. The father more aggressive and now Amber more aggressive and defiant of him. She has gone to the point of hating him. Can she stay with me even though it is shared placement and it is not on my placment days?