What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? VT
My daughter recently returned home (Feb, 08) from leaving a very abusive situation with her boy friend and is now the mom of a 3 week old little boy. She has lived with me since she came back home and is still living with me now.
My question is in regards to custody mostly. My daughter (who is 19) had no contact with the father (who is 21) throughout the entire pregnancy as he wanted nothing to do with her or her baby as he referred to it.
Since my grandson was born my daughter and he have been talking and my daughter is convinced he has changed his ways and is planning on going back out to AZ to live with a friend of hers so that the father can get to know the baby.
His entire family has disowned this sweet, 3 week old boy, and have as of now kicked his father out of their house for accepting him as his son.
The father's family is well to do and is very manipulative to say the least and they have a lot of control over their children. To be honest I'm surprised this young man left his parent's home as he did. How long that will last is an unanswered question.
I am seeing some changes in his behavior but I am still really concerned that if she moves back out their with no custody established and his parents' get wind of it, and I'm sure they will, they will try to convince their son into taking the child. That was their first response when the baby's father told his parents and when he refused to do that they demanded that he disown him, when he would not they kicked him out of their home.
My daughter wants sole custody so that if the situation gets bad she can just leave and not have to worry about what the baby's father could do to stop her. I would rather she not go back out there at all. I'm concerned for her safety as well as my grandson's, but at least would like to know if things got out of hand again she could just leave and would not have to stay there.
She, my daughter, is also thinking about going back out on her own and leaving my grandson here with me, to check out the situation, as she put it. We have talked about petitioning the court for guardianship for me if she does do that so that at least I can take care of him while he is here with me and she is gone.
My other concern is that my daughter is bi-polar and is just now getting back onto some of her medication that she could not take while pregnant. She has post partum depression right now and is trying to work though all of that. None of this is helping that out at all. I know it took a lot to get her to see the situation as it was when she left this young man back in Jan. and I worry she will not see it again and it will have a huge impact on my grandsons safety and well being.
So after that my questions are -
1)what steps does she (or should she) need to take in order to establish custody when the father is in AZ and she is in VT. Is it possible to get sole custody based on the father's response and how he treated my daughter before she left AZ (he has/had some serious anger issues) or does it depend on other issues as well. If she does get sole custody what rights does the father have? There is truly a safety issue at stake here for this little guy.
2)how would we (my daughter and I) go about having guardianship established for him without any custody established.
3)does the custody issue need to be settled first or can they be done together?
4)what is the difference between temporary guardianship and legal guardianship? Would either of those take away the parental rights of either of my grandson's parents, because that is not what we are trying to do.
We just want to create a safety net for this little guy and are not sure how to go about it. So any advice would be helpful and appreciated.
If I left out anything you need to know feel free to ask.
Thank you in advance
My daughter recently returned home (Feb, 08) from leaving a very abusive situation with her boy friend and is now the mom of a 3 week old little boy. She has lived with me since she came back home and is still living with me now.
My question is in regards to custody mostly. My daughter (who is 19) had no contact with the father (who is 21) throughout the entire pregnancy as he wanted nothing to do with her or her baby as he referred to it.
Since my grandson was born my daughter and he have been talking and my daughter is convinced he has changed his ways and is planning on going back out to AZ to live with a friend of hers so that the father can get to know the baby.
His entire family has disowned this sweet, 3 week old boy, and have as of now kicked his father out of their house for accepting him as his son.
The father's family is well to do and is very manipulative to say the least and they have a lot of control over their children. To be honest I'm surprised this young man left his parent's home as he did. How long that will last is an unanswered question.
I am seeing some changes in his behavior but I am still really concerned that if she moves back out their with no custody established and his parents' get wind of it, and I'm sure they will, they will try to convince their son into taking the child. That was their first response when the baby's father told his parents and when he refused to do that they demanded that he disown him, when he would not they kicked him out of their home.
My daughter wants sole custody so that if the situation gets bad she can just leave and not have to worry about what the baby's father could do to stop her. I would rather she not go back out there at all. I'm concerned for her safety as well as my grandson's, but at least would like to know if things got out of hand again she could just leave and would not have to stay there.
She, my daughter, is also thinking about going back out on her own and leaving my grandson here with me, to check out the situation, as she put it. We have talked about petitioning the court for guardianship for me if she does do that so that at least I can take care of him while he is here with me and she is gone.
My other concern is that my daughter is bi-polar and is just now getting back onto some of her medication that she could not take while pregnant. She has post partum depression right now and is trying to work though all of that. None of this is helping that out at all. I know it took a lot to get her to see the situation as it was when she left this young man back in Jan. and I worry she will not see it again and it will have a huge impact on my grandsons safety and well being.
So after that my questions are -
1)what steps does she (or should she) need to take in order to establish custody when the father is in AZ and she is in VT. Is it possible to get sole custody based on the father's response and how he treated my daughter before she left AZ (he has/had some serious anger issues) or does it depend on other issues as well. If she does get sole custody what rights does the father have? There is truly a safety issue at stake here for this little guy.
2)how would we (my daughter and I) go about having guardianship established for him without any custody established.
3)does the custody issue need to be settled first or can they be done together?
4)what is the difference between temporary guardianship and legal guardianship? Would either of those take away the parental rights of either of my grandson's parents, because that is not what we are trying to do.
We just want to create a safety net for this little guy and are not sure how to go about it. So any advice would be helpful and appreciated.
If I left out anything you need to know feel free to ask.
Thank you in advance
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