Haveyourway
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? New York
Hi everyone, this is my first time here and first post. I need some help. I am a mom of 3 wonderful kids, ranging in age from 8-2. My spouse and I have the 2 year old together, my other 2 are from a prev. marriage. I moved here to NY from the midwest b/c he (spouse) was so unhappy there and said he needed to come back to NY so we married and move here. All was fine w/ father of the kids. So now I am living here in NY for 1+ year, and my spouse has become a different man. He began having an "internet relationship" with one of my best friends back home, which I found out about, he was posting naked pics of himself online on a singles site, he has just recently hit me 2 times and tore up my personal items. He also has been treating the other kids (not his) horribely. I need to leave, the cops have been called, but they can't do anything unless I show up "battered" or this is what I was told. I want to go back home, home to my family, friends all my support! I am a stay at home mom now, and he does work. I need to know what I need to do to be able to leave this summer when my oldest is out of school. I know since we have a mutual child I have to file papers. I don't want to be stuck here b/c I came here, he was living w/ me in the midwest and we were married there, but he was so unhappy. I'm dissapointed in him and myself. Please help me know what next steps are and what I need to do to help me and my children. by the way, he is a pretty good father to our baby, he drinks alot and can't be around her when he's drunk b/c he's clumsy and vomits, passes out, (new thing) when I tried to talk to him about moving, he said he will never live there again and if I leave w/ his baby he will hunt me down and shot me in my face.
Hi everyone, this is my first time here and first post. I need some help. I am a mom of 3 wonderful kids, ranging in age from 8-2. My spouse and I have the 2 year old together, my other 2 are from a prev. marriage. I moved here to NY from the midwest b/c he (spouse) was so unhappy there and said he needed to come back to NY so we married and move here. All was fine w/ father of the kids. So now I am living here in NY for 1+ year, and my spouse has become a different man. He began having an "internet relationship" with one of my best friends back home, which I found out about, he was posting naked pics of himself online on a singles site, he has just recently hit me 2 times and tore up my personal items. He also has been treating the other kids (not his) horribely. I need to leave, the cops have been called, but they can't do anything unless I show up "battered" or this is what I was told. I want to go back home, home to my family, friends all my support! I am a stay at home mom now, and he does work. I need to know what I need to do to be able to leave this summer when my oldest is out of school. I know since we have a mutual child I have to file papers. I don't want to be stuck here b/c I came here, he was living w/ me in the midwest and we were married there, but he was so unhappy. I'm dissapointed in him and myself. Please help me know what next steps are and what I need to do to help me and my children. by the way, he is a pretty good father to our baby, he drinks alot and can't be around her when he's drunk b/c he's clumsy and vomits, passes out, (new thing) when I tried to talk to him about moving, he said he will never live there again and if I leave w/ his baby he will hunt me down and shot me in my face.