MiseryInNJ
Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? New Jersey
Ok, with my divorce now safely behind me, apparently others are peppering me with questions.
There's a certain individual I know who is in the midst of something of an unpleasant divorce - he knows he's financially screwed because his soon-to-be-ex has money, lawyers, etc., and basically had a killer prenup for him to sign when they got married.
All that's in the past, now here's the kicker - he says that he thinks he's an alcoholic, and should probably go into rehab. Presumably his soon-to-be-ex doesn't know the extent of his problem, but I'm not sure yet. HOWEVER, he's afraid to do actually check into rehab because he thinks that'll negatively affect his ability to at least get partial custody, joint, or whatever.
Now, I'm guessing that if his wife DOES know about the problem, he's screwed. But if she doesn't know, is he better off keeping his mouth shut, or will going to rehab actually improve his chances (ie: shows he's willing to make the changes needed, etc)
This is completely outside of anything I had personal experience (I almost never drink, and my ex drinks only a little more than I). Is he right in assuming that BEING in rehab is going to cause him more trouble?
Thanks in advance. Yeah, I already told him that he should ask a lawyer about that, as I suspect his "hide it" solution is just asking for trouble (and hopefully he DOES consult with an attorney about this). Still, any other info would be greatly appreciated.
Ok, with my divorce now safely behind me, apparently others are peppering me with questions.
There's a certain individual I know who is in the midst of something of an unpleasant divorce - he knows he's financially screwed because his soon-to-be-ex has money, lawyers, etc., and basically had a killer prenup for him to sign when they got married.
All that's in the past, now here's the kicker - he says that he thinks he's an alcoholic, and should probably go into rehab. Presumably his soon-to-be-ex doesn't know the extent of his problem, but I'm not sure yet. HOWEVER, he's afraid to do actually check into rehab because he thinks that'll negatively affect his ability to at least get partial custody, joint, or whatever.
Now, I'm guessing that if his wife DOES know about the problem, he's screwed. But if she doesn't know, is he better off keeping his mouth shut, or will going to rehab actually improve his chances (ie: shows he's willing to make the changes needed, etc)
This is completely outside of anything I had personal experience (I almost never drink, and my ex drinks only a little more than I). Is he right in assuming that BEING in rehab is going to cause him more trouble?
Thanks in advance. Yeah, I already told him that he should ask a lawyer about that, as I suspect his "hide it" solution is just asking for trouble (and hopefully he DOES consult with an attorney about this). Still, any other info would be greatly appreciated.