What is the name of your state? Washington State
I have a question about modifications. We've had a great 5 year run with the current parenting plan without many issues and certainly no issues that weren't resolved between us.
The non-custodial parent has the children for 5 days and we have them for 9 days. Every 14 days it starts over. The NCP has a new job and frequently works late on 3 of her days. She's arranged to have the weekends she has the kids off so she works late on the 3 school nights she has them every other week. She works an hour from our home and insists on picking up the children well after bedtime and driving them 45 minutes to her house, just so she can have them overnight. This means they have to either stay up late or be woken up to leave. Then they have to leave her home very early as they have a 45 minute drive back to our area for school. I can see why she wants to exercise every second of time with the kids and we bend over backwards to make sure she has the kids whenever it's possible for her but this seems to be just for her benefit and not what is right for the kids. It just doesn't make any sense to me to pick up the kids at 10:30, put them in bed the second she gets home at 11:15 and then have them up at 6:30 to leave for school. They are 12 and 7 by the way.
Also, instead of letting them come to our house on days when she works, she lets them stay home alone. Could we get in trouble for picking them up against her wishes and returning them home after she got home from work. The kids love being home alone and don't want us to pick them up. I just don't feel like the 12 year old severe ADHD child is ready to stay home alone with his 7 year old sister. I know whoever has court ordered time with the child has every right to do whatever they choose during that time. Where sort of line has to be crossed to allow us to seek a sucessful change in the parenting plan? Also, I know that we can't withhold her parenting time for any reason and we aren't looking to do any of this outside of the courts.
Thanks
I have a question about modifications. We've had a great 5 year run with the current parenting plan without many issues and certainly no issues that weren't resolved between us.
The non-custodial parent has the children for 5 days and we have them for 9 days. Every 14 days it starts over. The NCP has a new job and frequently works late on 3 of her days. She's arranged to have the weekends she has the kids off so she works late on the 3 school nights she has them every other week. She works an hour from our home and insists on picking up the children well after bedtime and driving them 45 minutes to her house, just so she can have them overnight. This means they have to either stay up late or be woken up to leave. Then they have to leave her home very early as they have a 45 minute drive back to our area for school. I can see why she wants to exercise every second of time with the kids and we bend over backwards to make sure she has the kids whenever it's possible for her but this seems to be just for her benefit and not what is right for the kids. It just doesn't make any sense to me to pick up the kids at 10:30, put them in bed the second she gets home at 11:15 and then have them up at 6:30 to leave for school. They are 12 and 7 by the way.
Also, instead of letting them come to our house on days when she works, she lets them stay home alone. Could we get in trouble for picking them up against her wishes and returning them home after she got home from work. The kids love being home alone and don't want us to pick them up. I just don't feel like the 12 year old severe ADHD child is ready to stay home alone with his 7 year old sister. I know whoever has court ordered time with the child has every right to do whatever they choose during that time. Where sort of line has to be crossed to allow us to seek a sucessful change in the parenting plan? Also, I know that we can't withhold her parenting time for any reason and we aren't looking to do any of this outside of the courts.
Thanks