Newborn and custody/visitation issues

[genvissa]

What is the name of your state? Arizona

Is there a policy in place for visitation for a breastfed newborn. Mom and dad are not together. The baby is eight weeks old and being breastfed. The father has come to the house for visits and is within the last couple weeks has started taking the baby for four hours during the day every Sunday. The Dad is now pushing the fact that he wants to keep the baby overnight every weekend and wants the mother to stop breastfeeding so that he can do this. Are there guidelines for visitation with a young baby like this? Also he expects to have the baby every weekend even as he gets older, which I think is unreasonable especially when the mother will be working full time during the week and will also want some weekend time with the baby.

The father has money and is constantly threatening the mother as he knows that she doesn't have the funds to get an attorney.

Thanks,
A Concerned Grandparent

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

which I think is unreasonable especially when the mother will be working full time during the week and will also want some weekend time with the baby.

My response:

You think? On what grounds do you "think" this arrangement is "unreasonable"? Who died and had you appointed "Chief Meddler"?

IAAL

 

[Ron1347]

Umm...breast pump? Send supply of mother's milk with dad? Along with mother's breast milk, often times a supplement formular is chosen if not enough brest milk can be supplied for the length of father's visit. Seen it done that way MANY-a-time!

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state? Arizona

Is there a policy in place for visitation for a breastfed newborn. Mom and dad are not together. The baby is eight weeks old and being breastfed. The father has come to the house for visits and is within the last couple weeks has started taking the baby for four hours during the day every Sunday. The Dad is now pushing the fact that he wants to keep the baby overnight every weekend and wants the mother to stop breastfeeding so that he can do this. Are there guidelines for visitation with a young baby like this? Also he expects to have the baby every weekend even as he gets older, which I think is unreasonable especially when the mother will be working full time during the week and will also want some weekend time with the baby.

The father has money and is constantly threatening the mother as he knows that she doesn't have the funds to get an attorney.

Thanks,
A Concerned Grandparent

A judge is very unlikely to order a mother to stop breastfeeding. The mother however may be ordered to pump milk to provide bottles for feeding during dad's time (assuming the mother is capable of pumping or is capable of pumping enough for both daycare and visitation purposes).

There is also very little chance that a judge would give him every weekend...its generally recognized that BOTH parents are entitled to weekend time with the child.

Its also generally recognized that more frequent, shorter visits, are better to help an infant bond with the other parent. Ideally he should be seeing the baby several times a week for a couple of hours.

If he has an attorney its really better if your daughter has one too. If she really can't afford it and you can't afford to help her, then she should try contacting Legal Aid to see if she qualifies for their assistance.

In the meantime, she shouldn't give in to threats or bullying.

I don't know if AZ has specific guidelines or not....try doing some searches on the AZ government website. However most states that do, have gradual, phased in visitation for infants, that emphasizes frequency over duration.

 

[haiku]

if mom is working fulltime, while dealing with breast feeding, than there should be no issue in working with dad for visitation either.

 

[misslawli]

www.lawhelp.org/documents/124691visitation_FAQ.html?stateabbrev=/AZ/
www.azlawhelp.org

I am also in AZ and found these sites helpful. My son started overnites with his father at 2 and a half months. (of course since my sons 1st B-day we have only heard from him 2 times ) While techhnically if there is no court order she doesn't have to let him see the baby, but it is best for the baby to see dad.

hope this helps.

 

[casa]

What is the name of your state? Arizona

Is there a policy in place for visitation for a breastfed newborn. Mom and dad are not together. The baby is eight weeks old and being breastfed. The father has come to the house for visits and is within the last couple weeks has started taking the baby for four hours during the day every Sunday. The Dad is now pushing the fact that he wants to keep the baby overnight every weekend and wants the mother to stop breastfeeding so that he can do this. Are there guidelines for visitation with a young baby like this? Also he expects to have the baby every weekend even as he gets older, which I think is unreasonable especially when the mother will be working full time during the week and will also want some weekend time with the baby.

The father has money and is constantly threatening the mother as he knows that she doesn't have the funds to get an attorney.

Thanks,
A Concerned Grandparent

Question #1: When Mom is working "full time" who feeds the baby? Someone obviously- so Mom either hands the pumped milk over to Dad instead, or she tells Dad what formula the baby drinks. This argument is transparent (And yes, I breastfed & worked & pumped )

Question #2: Who does Mother think she's punishing by withholding visitation? Dad or Baby? If Mom were still with the father this would be a non-issue. Something to think about.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

(And yes, I breastfed & worked & pumped )

My response:

You are getting me so HOT!!

IAAL

 

[rmet4nzkx]

My response:

You are getting me so HOT!!

IAAL

Calm down there Tiger

 

[casa]

My response:

You are getting me so HOT!!

IAAL

You're easy

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

You're easy

My response:

Yes, I am. Are you?

Whip it. Now, whip it good!


IAAL

 

[casa]

My response:

Yes, I am. Are you?

Whip it. Now, whip it good!


IAAL

Unfortunately IAAL, I'm blonde~ and everyone 'knows' you only like redheads

Besides I'm not easy at all...in fact I'm quite difficult

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

Unfortunately IAAL, I'm blonde~ and everyone 'knows' you only like redheads

Besides I'm not easy at all...in fact I'm quite difficult

My response:

I like corn flakes. Please squeeze me a pint.

IAAL

 

[casa]

My response:

I like corn flakes. Please squeeze me a pint.

IAAL

LMAO!

That was a while ago...sorry. Couldn't squeeze ya a drop if I wanted to.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

LMAO!

That was a while ago...sorry. Couldn't squeeze ya a drop if I wanted to.

My response:

Oh, my dear, I could get you going again - - in no time.

IAAL