What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oregon
My ex and I broke up in 2004. I have had the two girls for 5 years, besides him never paying child suport.. because he told me if I went after him he would fight for custody. I make 1800 a month and he makes 4500 a month so that threat scares me.
When I was layed off and had to go on assistance they went after him fo the money. He went after me for custody. My girls convenced him that they wanted to live with me, so he made up a custody/visitation plan and told me that if I did't signe it that he would take the girls.
In this plan it states that he will pay for there shared cell phone, I am not allowed to take it away for any reason and I am not allowed to interfear with the amount of phone calls between the girls and him.
The problem is... that when the girls fight about who gets the phone, who delets pic's, who takes pics, who reads the others text.. phone calls in the middle of the night, and who is going to set the back ground pic, texting all threw the night I can't ground them from the phone. You maybe thinking...well get two phone's But thats not the worse of it. He calls them duiring school, when they get up in the morning, when they go to bed (even past their bed time) and all threw the day and evening and when I punish them for anything they call him and complain, so then he calls me and chews me out. He is alway's asking them what I am doing, where I've been, who's at the house ect. I can't structure anything.. chorses bed time, family time,dinner time, ect.
SO I'm asking.. WHAt is oregons law on comunication with the non-custodial parent? can I take this to court and ask that he give them a phone card so they can use the house phone? so that I can have some structure in my home? I have them 75% of the time and him 35% But I never get any alone time with them. Is allowing so many phone calls a week exceptable? I need to get him out of my life.. scratch that .. out of my home. what is my right in this situation?