coolmomof4
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Sorry, a little long but thought the background info would be useful:
My husband has a 7 year old son. His bio-mother lives in NC with her parents since the divorce 6 years ago. We lived in NC also, until 3 years ago when my husband was relocated to GA, 6 hours away. They share custody, his son lives w/us & she gets visitation, 1 weekend every month, (we swap the transportation monthly). She also gets one week in summer & half of winter break. (The schedule is so rigid because of her mental history & not being able to care for him (her mother does it). For example, during the last visit, she had "severe pain" in her jaw and screamed in front of my step son that she "couldn't take it anymore", and ran across parking lot, begging some guy she didn't know, for help. Mental? I think so.
We have always gotten him to her when scheduled, but on her turns to come here, she has skipped 11 visits, more than half, yet she whines that she doesn't see him enough and that the schedule is unfair. She has never paid a penny in child support either. She never worked, up until two years ago, now works full time, but is asking her employer to reduce her hours.
Now she has announced that she is getting married, they have never lived in the same state and she has never seen where he lives. My stepson has met guy once, two years ago. She is also moving to PA, 13+hours away, by car. She seems to think she is going to have the same schedule with extra time in summer, too, but that we will take turns paying for airline travel instead of driving. Tickets are $300 round trip. I am sure this can't be normal. What is the norm? What if our situation is not normal? What can we expect? Also, we will probably ask for support now, but will a judge have it only off set our higher travel expenses or can it be in addition to some of the added expense? Note: He absolutely hates spending time with her and calls her by name, not mom.
My husband has a 7 year old son. His bio-mother lives in NC with her parents since the divorce 6 years ago. We lived in NC also, until 3 years ago when my husband was relocated to GA, 6 hours away. They share custody, his son lives w/us & she gets visitation, 1 weekend every month, (we swap the transportation monthly). She also gets one week in summer & half of winter break. (The schedule is so rigid because of her mental history & not being able to care for him (her mother does it). For example, during the last visit, she had "severe pain" in her jaw and screamed in front of my step son that she "couldn't take it anymore", and ran across parking lot, begging some guy she didn't know, for help. Mental? I think so.
We have always gotten him to her when scheduled, but on her turns to come here, she has skipped 11 visits, more than half, yet she whines that she doesn't see him enough and that the schedule is unfair. She has never paid a penny in child support either. She never worked, up until two years ago, now works full time, but is asking her employer to reduce her hours.
Now she has announced that she is getting married, they have never lived in the same state and she has never seen where he lives. My stepson has met guy once, two years ago. She is also moving to PA, 13+hours away, by car. She seems to think she is going to have the same schedule with extra time in summer, too, but that we will take turns paying for airline travel instead of driving. Tickets are $300 round trip. I am sure this can't be normal. What is the norm? What if our situation is not normal? What can we expect? Also, we will probably ask for support now, but will a judge have it only off set our higher travel expenses or can it be in addition to some of the added expense? Note: He absolutely hates spending time with her and calls her by name, not mom.
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