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    Ericade85 is offline Junior Member
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    What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Alabama...

    Is a custodial parent required by law to notify a non custodial parent if a child becomes seriously ill..like has a seizure??
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ericade85 View Post
    What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Alabama...

    Is a custodial parent required by law to notify a non custodial parent if a child becomes seriously ill..like has a seizure??
    okay. here goes. how does DAD know for a fact the child has a seizure? hospital records? a phone call from the doctor's office?

    *hint* the facebook page is not proof
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ericade85 View Post
    What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Alabama...

    Is a custodial parent required by law to notify a non custodial parent if a child becomes seriously ill..like has a seizure??
    No. Quite simply, NO. And the CP is definitely not required to notify the other parent's bed buddy either. Nor does the CP have to discuss or inform the bed buddy (even NCP's marital bed buddy) of anything. Nor does the CP have to be polite to the NCP's new bed buddy/partner/spouse. Should I continue?
    Parents should remember 3 things: Love your kids more than you hate your ex; when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death; your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in.
    Nothing stated by me should be taken as giving you legal advice or forming an attorney/client relationship.

    Attorney-GAL in Ohio.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ericade85 View Post
    What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Alabama...

    Is a custodial parent required by law to notify a non custodial parent if a child becomes seriously ill..like has a seizure??
    Joint legal custody?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Zephyr View Post
    Joint legal custody?
    Even with joint legal there is not a statute that requires the parents to notify the other when the child is ill. At least I have not found a STATUTE that requires that.
    Parents should remember 3 things: Love your kids more than you hate your ex; when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death; your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in.
    Nothing stated by me should be taken as giving you legal advice or forming an attorney/client relationship.

    Attorney-GAL in Ohio.

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    Not all seizures indicate a serious illness. Sometimes young children have seizures from a fever, but no lasting damage is done and it doesn't mean it will ever happen again.

    And on the other hand, maybe it's the onset of epilepsy, but that will take days or maybe even weeks of testing to determine, and I'm sure if he IS diagnosed with something that requires continual management and/or medication, mom will discuss it with dad. Meantime, keep your nose out of it.
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    Does the order say ANYTHING about this? For instance, MINE says "Each party shall promptly inform the other of any medical issues that arose during the parent's time."
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    Quote Originally Posted by CJane View Post
    Does the order say ANYTHING about this? For instance, MINE says "Each party shall promptly inform the other of any medical issues that arose during the parent's time."
    Wow, my order only required me to notify Dad. He never had to tell me if Son got sick or needed medical attention in his care. It was just in the standard order they gave us that the CP should immediatley notify the NCP of any serious illness or injury requiring medical attention.
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    Hmm....I went and looked at my order and it doesnt say anything other than we expect that the other parent can make emergency medical decisions for the other and to inform the other parent. But it doesnt say when. I had always thought it had to be within 24 hours but I guess i was wrong.

    Anyway, unless the seizure was longer than 3 minutes, and there arent more of them, it probably wasnt a big deal. Seizures look scarier than they actually are.

    Which doesnt negate the fact that you have no business on her Facebook page and none of this concerns you.

    And while I am at it...how are you on someone's Facebook page and "accidentally" find out??
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ericade85 View Post
    What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Alabama...

    Is a custodial parent required by law to notify a non custodial parent if a child becomes seriously ill..like has a seizure??
    Erica -

    Let the FATHER and the MOTHER work this out. Your place is way, WAY in the background.
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    MaryJo, Natalie & CJane: None of you guys have orders from Alabama.

    My orders (made in Alabama) are silent on notifying LYD if The Child has medical issues (or any other issues, for that matter). And (as OG said) there is nothing in the Alabama Statutes that says Mom has to notify Dad of diddly.
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    As well, in CA, there are no orders...a parent can request it be ordered that contact is made after an emergency. My ex took me to court after I took daughter into hospital (middle of the night) for barking cough (I didn't know how to deal with at the time or what was going on). I called dad the following morning, he took it to court and had a clause put in I must call him IMMEDIATLY upon any emergency. I asked it be included in our court order that if daughter is sick enough to miss school, and/or has a fever, that we call each other the same day and inform. Otherwise, an email during that visitation period if any other sickness. All the above was approved. My exp (here in CA) is pretty much ask and I know dad has been able to get a ton of stuff approved.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MichaCA View Post
    As well, in CA, there are no orders...a parent can request it be ordered that contact is made after an emergency. My ex took me to court after I took daughter into hospital (middle of the night) for barking cough (I didn't know how to deal with at the time or what was going on). I called dad the following morning, he took it to court and had a clause put in I must call him IMMEDIATLY upon any emergency. I asked it be included in our court order that if daughter is sick enough to miss school, and/or has a fever, that we call each other the same day and inform. Otherwise, an email during that visitation period if any other sickness. All the above was approved. My exp (here in CA) is pretty much ask and I know dad has been able to get a ton of stuff approved.
    wow. that, to me anyway, is so stupid. the father of my two older boys tried this same stunt. 11 year old was in the principal's office, (for bringing a knife to school) i was called in. took me 3 minutes to get there, i called his dad within two minutes of walking in the door. he complained to the court i didn't call fast enough. so the judge did this....

    hospital ER visits, if the child is admitted...okay. but not for afterhour care.
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    While it may not be a requirement, I do think that failing to notify the other parent of an illness or seizure etc is pretty damn disrespectful, horrible co-parenting and certainly not the way any of us would wish to be treated. I can't believe parents do that to each other.....don't know why I can't believe it- ex has done it to me, while I have when there was an issue called him as soon as we got to the ER....
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    At the point that stepmom saw the facebook post, mom would still have been waiting for test results to find out if there was a need to notify dad, or just to have something definite to tell him. It was only the next day. OP is overreacting and overstepping.

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