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reeBrelliM
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What is the name of your state? Iowa
Hello all,
I'm 31 yrs old and I had always paid my child support religiously, on my own, and without any outside influence or wage garnishment. I had always paid the payments on time, and in full, up until a while back when I had become ill. All of this had occured during a time when I was without any kind of insurance at all. I was basically forced to use money that WAS going towards my child support each month, NOW to pay for seeing several different doctors on a per visit basis, ...was quite expensive with the hundreds of different kinds of blood tests, X-rays, examinations, and the various consultations that took place over the course of about four months. Raising a child does cost money, and I do feel that it is my obligation to assist finacially until the obligation is fullfilled, however, I also believe that ones HEALTH comes BEFORE ones child support, especially if it is something serious such as this, and where "time is of the essence". I really had no choice but to address my health issues, in hopes to resolve what was troubling me first. After four months from the time of my first initial doctors visit, I had been diagnosed with having Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma, in other words I'd learned that I had a terminal illness, ...Cancer.
It was only a short time after the diagnosis, that I'd gotten a letter from the local DHS CS Agency, they wanted to know why my support payments had suddenly stopped. I had called and explained everything to them, I sent copies of the medical report and diagnosis papers to them, as well as to the court appointed public pretender. My appointed attorney took the information and went before a Judge who'd signed and ORDERED the following:
IT IS SO ORDERED!!!
"The courts have learned that the said OBLIGOR has cancer, NO such warrant for MITTIMUS shall be issued upon until the said OBLIGOR has gone into remission from the cancer."
About 6 months passed by, but I still had not yet received any treatments for the cancer. Then one night I was pulled over for a "routine traffic stop" by the local police, and it was much to my surprise when I was told to put my hands behind my back, that I was under arrest for non-payment of child support, it was a "bench warrant 10 day mittimus."
I explained about the order that was signed by the judge (in quotes above) that I had, and that there was obviously some kind of mistake, I asked them to please check into it. Well, needless to say, I'd served 5 of the 10 days in jail before I was finally heard. They were ordered by a judge to let me out "Forthwith".
Well, it was about another 6 months later after being arrested, and now the States District Attorney wants me to sign a form for approving the release of medical records and information from my doctors, however, I feel that my medical information is private and shouldn't be necessary. I am constantly being threatened of being jailed, ...as if it wasn't bad enough after being cut short of my time to live, ...and now they want to take even more time from me by putting me in jail!!!???
Please read on, ...it gets even better!
(..working under impossible circumstances??)
Even though there is a fine Cancer Center that's stationed right here locally in town, ..because I'm poor and don't have any kind of health insurance, I'm forced to drive back-n-forth to the University of Iowa Hospitals and Clinics in Iowa City, Iowa (which is 550 miles round trip) in order to seek the medical assistance that I do so desperately need. I HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE, ...it's just another chapter in the book, and all part of the endless struggling, striving, and surviving. I will NOT be defeated by this disease, PERIOD!
Here's where things get downright rediculous, brace yourself. The DHS has now suspended my drivers license for non payment of support. What am I supposed to do now when I have to drive 550 miles across the state of Iowa just to make it to my doctors appointment? If I get pulled over, and found driving under suspension, I'll be put in jail, the car gets impounded, I'll miss my appointment (which can be rescheduled, ...but that's not the point) I had asked DHS about how I was supposed to make these trips if I'm suspended, their response was as follows: "If you don't have someone to take you, then you'll just have to take a bus." My mother was able to drive me back-n-forth for the first two trips, it was a good thing too, because after my bone marrow biopsy I was in so much pain and discomfort, and so heavily drugged that I couldn't have done it without her, I slept in back seat the entire trip back home, but just since then she has been declared as being disabled, and isn't allowed to drive anymore, ...my father had passed on several years ago, ...I have nobody else.
With the constant threat of being jailed, plus having my license suspensed, ...this has directly effected my ability to seek the medical attention that I need, ...I'm tired of trying to get someone to actually hear me, and that can understand my situation. It's pure and simple political BS!!! I feel that I have exausted all my options regarding this matter The situation at hand has made me contemplate ordinarily unthinkable things, things that I would NEVER ever have even thought about, let alone consider as being any kind of options.
(I lower my head in complete disgust)
1) Forfeiture of my parental rights. Once again, this is something that is ordinarily UNTHINKABLE!!!
2) Quietly move out of state (...not financially possible)
3) Take my own life (...I've been dealt a pretty bad hand in life, ...BUT I SHOULD NEVER, NEVER, NEVER EVER BE FEELING LIKE THIS IS ONE OF MY OPTIONS, ...PERIOD!!! I couldn't ever do this anyways, as I despise those weasels that do choose this as being an only alternative.
I honestly don't know what to do here. Anyone with any tips, ideas, or suggestions, ..hey I'm all ears, you have 110% of my attention!!
I'm sorry to have rambled on for so long, but I wanted this to be as complete, and thorough as possible, to hopefully get some answers and ideas from some of ya´all that maybe have already been down that road.
Thanks a million!!!
reeB_relliM
Hello all,
I'm 31 yrs old and I had always paid my child support religiously, on my own, and without any outside influence or wage garnishment. I had always paid the payments on time, and in full, up until a while back when I had become ill. All of this had occured during a time when I was without any kind of insurance at all. I was basically forced to use money that WAS going towards my child support each month, NOW to pay for seeing several different doctors on a per visit basis, ...was quite expensive with the hundreds of different kinds of blood tests, X-rays, examinations, and the various consultations that took place over the course of about four months. Raising a child does cost money, and I do feel that it is my obligation to assist finacially until the obligation is fullfilled, however, I also believe that ones HEALTH comes BEFORE ones child support, especially if it is something serious such as this, and where "time is of the essence". I really had no choice but to address my health issues, in hopes to resolve what was troubling me first. After four months from the time of my first initial doctors visit, I had been diagnosed with having Non-Hodgkins Lymphoma, in other words I'd learned that I had a terminal illness, ...Cancer.
It was only a short time after the diagnosis, that I'd gotten a letter from the local DHS CS Agency, they wanted to know why my support payments had suddenly stopped. I had called and explained everything to them, I sent copies of the medical report and diagnosis papers to them, as well as to the court appointed public pretender. My appointed attorney took the information and went before a Judge who'd signed and ORDERED the following:
IT IS SO ORDERED!!!
"The courts have learned that the said OBLIGOR has cancer, NO such warrant for MITTIMUS shall be issued upon until the said OBLIGOR has gone into remission from the cancer."
About 6 months passed by, but I still had not yet received any treatments for the cancer. Then one night I was pulled over for a "routine traffic stop" by the local police, and it was much to my surprise when I was told to put my hands behind my back, that I was under arrest for non-payment of child support, it was a "bench warrant 10 day mittimus."
I explained about the order that was signed by the judge (in quotes above) that I had, and that there was obviously some kind of mistake, I asked them to please check into it. Well, needless to say, I'd served 5 of the 10 days in jail before I was finally heard. They were ordered by a judge to let me out "Forthwith".
Well, it was about another 6 months later after being arrested, and now the States District Attorney wants me to sign a form for approving the release of medical records and information from my doctors, however, I feel that my medical information is private and shouldn't be necessary. I am constantly being threatened of being jailed, ...as if it wasn't bad enough after being cut short of my time to live, ...and now they want to take even more time from me by putting me in jail!!!???
Please read on, ...it gets even better!
(..working under impossible circumstances??)
Even though there is a fine Cancer Center that's stationed right here locally in town, ..because I'm poor and don't have any kind of health insurance, I'm forced to drive back-n-forth to the University of Iowa Hospitals and Clinics in Iowa City, Iowa (which is 550 miles round trip) in order to seek the medical assistance that I do so desperately need. I HAVE NO OTHER CHOICE, ...it's just another chapter in the book, and all part of the endless struggling, striving, and surviving. I will NOT be defeated by this disease, PERIOD!
Here's where things get downright rediculous, brace yourself. The DHS has now suspended my drivers license for non payment of support. What am I supposed to do now when I have to drive 550 miles across the state of Iowa just to make it to my doctors appointment? If I get pulled over, and found driving under suspension, I'll be put in jail, the car gets impounded, I'll miss my appointment (which can be rescheduled, ...but that's not the point) I had asked DHS about how I was supposed to make these trips if I'm suspended, their response was as follows: "If you don't have someone to take you, then you'll just have to take a bus." My mother was able to drive me back-n-forth for the first two trips, it was a good thing too, because after my bone marrow biopsy I was in so much pain and discomfort, and so heavily drugged that I couldn't have done it without her, I slept in back seat the entire trip back home, but just since then she has been declared as being disabled, and isn't allowed to drive anymore, ...my father had passed on several years ago, ...I have nobody else.
With the constant threat of being jailed, plus having my license suspensed, ...this has directly effected my ability to seek the medical attention that I need, ...I'm tired of trying to get someone to actually hear me, and that can understand my situation. It's pure and simple political BS!!! I feel that I have exausted all my options regarding this matter The situation at hand has made me contemplate ordinarily unthinkable things, things that I would NEVER ever have even thought about, let alone consider as being any kind of options.
(I lower my head in complete disgust)
1) Forfeiture of my parental rights. Once again, this is something that is ordinarily UNTHINKABLE!!!
2) Quietly move out of state (...not financially possible)
3) Take my own life (...I've been dealt a pretty bad hand in life, ...BUT I SHOULD NEVER, NEVER, NEVER EVER BE FEELING LIKE THIS IS ONE OF MY OPTIONS, ...PERIOD!!! I couldn't ever do this anyways, as I despise those weasels that do choose this as being an only alternative.
I honestly don't know what to do here. Anyone with any tips, ideas, or suggestions, ..hey I'm all ears, you have 110% of my attention!!
I'm sorry to have rambled on for so long, but I wanted this to be as complete, and thorough as possible, to hopefully get some answers and ideas from some of ya´all that maybe have already been down that road.
Thanks a million!!!
reeB_relliM
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