Oklahoma Custody Question

[okiegal66]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oklahoma

My husband has custody of his daughter. She will be 18 in August. She wants to go back to her mother. The problem is she has 1 year of school left. We really don't have the money to hire a lawyer nor does her mother. What can we legally do to get her to her mom? Can we give her guardenship? My husband is willing to pay child support (the mother currently does). Can we just use the online form and fill it out and if we all agree it can be a done deal? The ex-wife is concerned the daughter would be seen as a runaway and she would be in trouble.

Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated. For something everyone wants to do it seems so difficult.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Oklahoma

My husband has custody of his daughter. She will be 18 in August. She wants to go back to her mother. The problem is she has 1 year of school left. We really don't have the money to hire a lawyer nor does her mother. What can we legally do to get her to her mom? Can we give her guardenship? My husband is willing to pay child support (the mother currently does). Can we just use the online form and fill it out and if we all agree it can be a done deal? The ex-wife is concerned the daughter would be seen as a runaway and she would be in trouble.

Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated. For something everyone wants to do it seems so difficult.What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?

At 18 the child is free to live with whomever she likes. Unless she is a special needs child who cannot function independently no one could be her guardian once she turns 18, nor would anybody have custody once she turns 18.

Now, on the other hand child support normally goes until graduation from high school, so that is still an issue, so that does need to be handled legally. Dad and mom could file a joint stipulation on that.

 

[nextwife]

Changing schools senior year is very unwise. By early to midyear, when she needs reference letters and recommendations to be completed by counselors and teachers, they won't have known her long enough to say anything useful.

 

[LdiJ]

Changing schools senior year is very unwise. By early to midyear, when she needs reference letters and recommendations to be completed by counselors and teachers, they won't have known her long enough to say anything useful.

It may be unwise, but she will be 18 before school starts, so there isn't much that dad can do about it.

 

[nextwife]

It may be unwise, but she will be 18 before school starts, so there isn't much that dad can do about it.

He can talk to her and explain why she may be shooting herself in the foot, destroying her future and why waiting until graduation may better serve her LONG term. Kids don't think long term, that's why the adults around them need to help point out what they fail to see.

 

[okiegal66]

Letters of reference will not be an issue. She is not going on to college.

We have tried to tell her this is not the best choice for her. But, she will not hear it. She has been uncooperative and honestly a mess to live with. We have given up. All she wants to do is live with her mom. So, we want to try and make that happen and not cost a small forture. We would rather save that money and send it to her for her support. We are just trying to do what's right. Unfortuneately, I do think she is being naive but at some point you have to let them make their own mistakes and learn by them.

Thanks for the advice.

 

[OHRoadwarrior]

Most schools will accept her living with either parent at 18. Barring an IEP, she will need to prove herself a self supporting student to live elsewhere.