What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Florida
1. My son is now 6 yrs old and I involuntarily moved from NY and his father when he was 2 months to live with my family in FL. There was a lot of possesive, domestic, and serious verbal fighting going on between my sons father and I. All of this went on prior to me being pregnant and after (yes i was stupid also naive and scared). Through the years up until last i have let him "play" father and in the long run all he wanted was to get back with me. I have made it clear to each and everytime that it was about him and his son; not me (unless it was in regards to my son) things would go ok for a little bit and then back to the same game and wouldn't hear from him for months at a time. I finally stuck to my words and put my foot down last year, as i am the one that would have to explain to my son why daddy is no longer around or calling, and have informed that he would have to take me to court if he chose to finally become a father and be apart of his sons life and his only.
Now, about a year later, I guess he has finally got a bug in him to find me on facebook and tell me that he would like to speak with his son and if not he would stop child support. Please keep in mind he has my current cell phone number, email address, and both my families phone number and address. Personally I could not care less about the money; I just want the best for my son and stability. He lives in NY and I live in FL along with my son for about 6 years.
Should I give him another try?
Can I cut the child support and just have him leave me alone since that seems to be his biggest concern that he mentioned in his notes to me on facebook?
Would he be able to obtain full custody?
Please advise.
2. I have a daughter from a different father whom ended up to be about the same as my sons father minus he domestic (except for one incident). We have had our definite share of hardships; moreso because he was a "moocher". Knowing I had another child, made little money, but was naive enough to put everything in my name and trust him with my all including my daughter. Now with him, due to my past scenario and everything going close to the same situation; when i was pregnant with her every time we fought i would say that I didn't want this baby, maybe I should get an abortion. Then once i had her things were ok for a little bit as we had broke up and got back together and when she was 3 wks old; moved to VA with his family. He was supposed to go back to becoming a merchant seaman. Yet again I made a stupid move and with all that went down in VA (which in month there was novel amount that went on) and left my daughter in va with her father and his family, which I did for him to understand about being a single parent as he always mocked me. He came back to FL eventually and we "worked" things out for a little bit and we went on and off for about another 2 yrs.
Finally I went for custody since he was playing around and decided to run off with my daughter on his turn through a private agreement we made. It turned into joint custody, which all the 50/50 turned into 100% on my side. He always held threats over me and pretty much did what he said from being nervous and scared. In 2008 on her 3rd birthday we got into a fight and canceled the party we were going to throw. I made a deal with him since he took the day off for it and said i would spend the day with her prior and drop her off the next day (which technically would have been my day per the mediation agreement) and since then i have not heard from him except for a text here and there.
I still try to write him via email, myspace, facbook, blackplanet, etc... Through my doctor I did find out someone was trying to obtain paperwork for her in NC. I called the sherriffs dept and they said I would have to go through court. I allowed the papers to get sent since it was for Doctor appointments, but still have not heard from him. Unfortunatly I am lack of funds to fully pursue this issue right now but am planning on doing so as soon as my taxes come in. Please Help!! I want my daughter back.
Would I be able to at least reopen the mediation agreement and file for custody out here or do i have to go through NC?
Is there a possibility I can still get full custody?
Can he get me for abandonment and if so what happens?
Please advise
I greatly appreciate your time and any advice you can provide.
Thank you and God BlessWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?
1. My son is now 6 yrs old and I involuntarily moved from NY and his father when he was 2 months to live with my family in FL. There was a lot of possesive, domestic, and serious verbal fighting going on between my sons father and I. All of this went on prior to me being pregnant and after (yes i was stupid also naive and scared). Through the years up until last i have let him "play" father and in the long run all he wanted was to get back with me. I have made it clear to each and everytime that it was about him and his son; not me (unless it was in regards to my son) things would go ok for a little bit and then back to the same game and wouldn't hear from him for months at a time. I finally stuck to my words and put my foot down last year, as i am the one that would have to explain to my son why daddy is no longer around or calling, and have informed that he would have to take me to court if he chose to finally become a father and be apart of his sons life and his only.
Now, about a year later, I guess he has finally got a bug in him to find me on facebook and tell me that he would like to speak with his son and if not he would stop child support. Please keep in mind he has my current cell phone number, email address, and both my families phone number and address. Personally I could not care less about the money; I just want the best for my son and stability. He lives in NY and I live in FL along with my son for about 6 years.
Should I give him another try?
Can I cut the child support and just have him leave me alone since that seems to be his biggest concern that he mentioned in his notes to me on facebook?
Would he be able to obtain full custody?
Please advise.
2. I have a daughter from a different father whom ended up to be about the same as my sons father minus he domestic (except for one incident). We have had our definite share of hardships; moreso because he was a "moocher". Knowing I had another child, made little money, but was naive enough to put everything in my name and trust him with my all including my daughter. Now with him, due to my past scenario and everything going close to the same situation; when i was pregnant with her every time we fought i would say that I didn't want this baby, maybe I should get an abortion. Then once i had her things were ok for a little bit as we had broke up and got back together and when she was 3 wks old; moved to VA with his family. He was supposed to go back to becoming a merchant seaman. Yet again I made a stupid move and with all that went down in VA (which in month there was novel amount that went on) and left my daughter in va with her father and his family, which I did for him to understand about being a single parent as he always mocked me. He came back to FL eventually and we "worked" things out for a little bit and we went on and off for about another 2 yrs.
Finally I went for custody since he was playing around and decided to run off with my daughter on his turn through a private agreement we made. It turned into joint custody, which all the 50/50 turned into 100% on my side. He always held threats over me and pretty much did what he said from being nervous and scared. In 2008 on her 3rd birthday we got into a fight and canceled the party we were going to throw. I made a deal with him since he took the day off for it and said i would spend the day with her prior and drop her off the next day (which technically would have been my day per the mediation agreement) and since then i have not heard from him except for a text here and there.
I still try to write him via email, myspace, facbook, blackplanet, etc... Through my doctor I did find out someone was trying to obtain paperwork for her in NC. I called the sherriffs dept and they said I would have to go through court. I allowed the papers to get sent since it was for Doctor appointments, but still have not heard from him. Unfortunatly I am lack of funds to fully pursue this issue right now but am planning on doing so as soon as my taxes come in. Please Help!! I want my daughter back.
Would I be able to at least reopen the mediation agreement and file for custody out here or do i have to go through NC?
Is there a possibility I can still get full custody?
Can he get me for abandonment and if so what happens?
Please advise
I greatly appreciate your time and any advice you can provide.
Thank you and God BlessWhat is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)?