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    confused77 is offline Junior Member
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    overnight guests when the children are there

    What is the name of your state?Arkansas

    My boyfriend is divorced with two children. His ex-wife has custody and he has visitation every other weekend. The ex-wife says that it is against the law for me to spend the night when the children are visiting. Is this true? She also said that she is going to modify the original divorce agreement to say that he cannot have overnight guests. Can she do this? We are talking about moving in together, but not if this is going to cause him not to be able to see his children. Please help me understand this!
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    Quote Originally Posted by confused77
    What is the name of your state?Arkansas

    My boyfriend is divorced with two children. His ex-wife has custody and he has visitation every other weekend. The ex-wife says that it is against the law for me to spend the night when the children are visiting. Is this true? She also said that she is going to modify the original divorce agreement to say that he cannot have overnight guests. Can she do this? We are talking about moving in together, but not if this is going to cause him not to be able to see his children. Please help me understand this!
    I sincerely doubt that it is against the law for you to spend the night when the children are there. However, it is quite possible that a judge would order that neither parent could have overnight guests of the opposite sex when the children are present. It is very common for that to be in orders.

    You could probably still live with dad...but you would have to stay elsewhere on the nights the kids were spending the night.
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    unless it is already in your S/O's orders, there is no law as to what parents can do with thier time.

    Certainly she could attempt to modify the order, but your S/O could fight it, and/or request the same of her,and very likely win. (and I would charge her my legal fees for the frivolity of it all)

    Here up North, courts really don't get into policing others morality, it is considered a BIG time waster in court. but some of these southern posts scare me**************
    "It is easier to build strong children than repair broken men." Frederick Douglas
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    bradybunchmom Guest

    Angry myob nosy

    tell your ex that you dont butt into her personal life, she shouldnt butt into yours.
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    Quote Originally Posted by confused77
    What is the name of your state?Arkansas

    My boyfriend is divorced with two children. His ex-wife has custody and he has visitation every other weekend. The ex-wife says that it is against the law for me to spend the night when the children are visiting. Is this true? She also said that she is going to modify the original divorce agreement to say that he cannot have overnight guests. Can she do this? We are talking about moving in together, but not if this is going to cause him not to be able to see his children. Please help me understand this!
    I believe this is a discretional issue with judges- and much of that is resultant from geography. ie; in CA a judge would be irritated this was brought up at all...but as Haiku said above, some states still utilize this restriction.

    The restriction or Cohabitation Order has to be in the court order. Currently it isn't- but if Mom is willing to spend the time and money to file, it might be in the future.

    It may be best to not stay the night when the children are visiting- or decide if this relationship is worth marriage. Whatever the father chooses, it should be his first priority that he keep his visitation rights.

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