Proserpina
Senior Member
My parents assume at this point, that the DNA test will be cheaper then the Divorce. Right now I am weighing my options, and gathering information. We have a DNA center close to both of our locations, and I previously had the money to get the test done, but I wouldn't pay for it until he agreed to go to the appointment and he refused. That was the cheapest way I could find to do it, yet he refused. So now we are weighing our options. Also, I just moved 2 months ago. I tried to get the paternity testing by going the shorter route and filing for child support in both Illinois and Texas, but both states have managed to either lose my paperwork, or its gotten screwed up where they cannot do it because of me being on a caseload with my boyfriend for medicaid and foodstamps. Also, before me having a boyfriend while being married causes a commotion, yes I know it is adultery, but neither one of us can accuse the other because we both have children born after our separation to different people.
Why don't you do this instead:
Get a home paternity test done first. That will help you decide if it's worth going through the process of filing to disestablish paternity which can be a royal PITA. If he's Dad, it's simply a divorce action. Otherwise...
Ah...and who did you put on the birth certificate of the child/ren born after the separation?
(Am I getting the timing right here? You've had two kids in the past 2+ years with two different guys, all while you're still married?)