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What is the name of your state? Oklahoma Question concerning divorce decree:
Originally when my fiancée divorced her husband (4 years ago) there was a great deal of tension between them, and for various reasons, she had to put a VPO against him. Due to this, the judge ordered that she and he should exchange the children at the police station, and this order was made part of the divorce decree.
Since that time, things have gotten better, the VPO has been dropped, and for the last 2 years they have been dropping the children off at each other’s houses instead of at the police station. (This was an oral agreement, made over the phone, which we have on tape).
My fiancée and I have now moved, and no longer live close her ex, versus he and she only living a couple of blocks from each other (we now live about 15 miles from him). Naturally, he is refusing to drop off the kids at the new house since it is now “inconvenient” for him. He is also stating that the decree specifically states that they “have to exchange the kids at the police station” (which he lives one block from) and that he has no responsibility to bring them out to our house(and naturally wants to return to picking up and dropping off at the police station). I assume, that since the divorce decree has not been changed, despite the fact she has an oral agreement with him, that he is correct in stating that if he chooses to still pick up and drop off the kids at the police station, then that is what we have to do(until the decree is modified). Is that correct?
Obviously, this is a matter that we are probably going to have to resolve in court, unfortunately. Therefore, if we have to go to court to change it, what is the “typical” arrangement? My fiancée has Full Custody of her two children. Most of the people I know who are divorced, and have full custody of the children, have stated that, in their case, the divorce decree orders that the non custodial parent is the parent responsible for both picking up and dropping off the children for their allotted visitations. I myself think it would be more fair for it to be 50/50, but would like to know my fiancée’s rights none the less.
Thanks for your help.
Originally when my fiancée divorced her husband (4 years ago) there was a great deal of tension between them, and for various reasons, she had to put a VPO against him. Due to this, the judge ordered that she and he should exchange the children at the police station, and this order was made part of the divorce decree.
Since that time, things have gotten better, the VPO has been dropped, and for the last 2 years they have been dropping the children off at each other’s houses instead of at the police station. (This was an oral agreement, made over the phone, which we have on tape).
My fiancée and I have now moved, and no longer live close her ex, versus he and she only living a couple of blocks from each other (we now live about 15 miles from him). Naturally, he is refusing to drop off the kids at the new house since it is now “inconvenient” for him. He is also stating that the decree specifically states that they “have to exchange the kids at the police station” (which he lives one block from) and that he has no responsibility to bring them out to our house(and naturally wants to return to picking up and dropping off at the police station). I assume, that since the divorce decree has not been changed, despite the fact she has an oral agreement with him, that he is correct in stating that if he chooses to still pick up and drop off the kids at the police station, then that is what we have to do(until the decree is modified). Is that correct?
Obviously, this is a matter that we are probably going to have to resolve in court, unfortunately. Therefore, if we have to go to court to change it, what is the “typical” arrangement? My fiancée has Full Custody of her two children. Most of the people I know who are divorced, and have full custody of the children, have stated that, in their case, the divorce decree orders that the non custodial parent is the parent responsible for both picking up and dropping off the children for their allotted visitations. I myself think it would be more fair for it to be 50/50, but would like to know my fiancée’s rights none the less.
Thanks for your help.