How old were you when you got your DUI? How old were you when you were using drugs? How old were you in rehab? You graduated 3 years ago at the age of 19?
YOU are NOT the one to question HIS motives regarding HIS child. You need to back off from there. Your sobriety is questionable. Your motives are questionable. Should we continue about what else can be questioned? You need to keep your suppositions regarding the CHILD'S father to yourself.
my girlfriend she is 24, the daughter she is 3yrs of age. The father is active in the childs life but, his motives may be questionable.
His girlfriend being pregnant matters not. No court orders regarding custody? None at all?
Before he began a relationship with his current girlfriend which by the way is pregnant, he was fine with having no custody at all, my girlfriend had full custody. When he asked for shared, it didnt even go to court becuase my girlfriend feels that the Father should play a part in the childs life obviously...
You slam the girlfriend of the ex in one breath and then you start using WE as though YOU matter. You don't. You are just overstepping and have boundary issues as girlfriend does.
The girlfriend of the ex, has numerous times put her business in where it is not belonged and over stepped boundaried many of times. We have saved texts and things of that nature of her saying she can't handle the child, and cannot make her behave in the dentist office.
You are a drug addict who apparently couldn't graduate high school on time. You also have problems with alcohol. Was your DUI after you turned 21 or before? Do you have your license back yet?
My girlfriend has a log of all the doctor appointments for the child and she has taken her to almost every single one.. We beleive we are much more stable a family, and all the important tasks in the child life have been taken care of by the mother.
WRONG. At the initial custody determination both parents stand equal. It is strictly based on the child's best interests.
The father does have the right to take her to court anytime, but she has to prove she is unfit and the child's welfare is in danger, and that is not an issue I do not beleive what so ever.
Over a year ago and you are 22. Again, did this DUI take place when you were 20? Your character blemishes are drug addiction/use as well as alcohol issues as well as hep C. Your judgment sucks.
The D.U.I. occured over a year ago, and the only reason sentencing hasn't concluded is continuations.. Yes I agree it is a charactor blemish on me. But still do not beleive it is enuff for the custody of my girlfriend's to be revoked or deminished in any way..
Then you are not sober if you drink. You have problems with drugs and alcohol. Your history is proof of that.
I am not a bad person, and I am sober. Other than a few beers every when I watch my Jaguars on sundays or a few drinks when the UFC PPV's are on I don't even drink hardly. If we do drink, it is when the child is with the father. We don't even smoke cigerettes around here.
That is not a kicker. There are issues including your attitude.
Heres the kicker, my girlfriend is actually a "germ-a-phobe", she has been before she even knew of my disease. She cleans everything and everywhere our apartment is spotless and you could probably eat off our toilets. I do not beleive that my girlfriend or her daughter are at any risk at all of contracting my Hep C, especially after injections dimish viral loads.
Mom does not have to be unfit. That is what you don't get. You are overstepping. You are an addict (once an addict always an addict). I could make a case against you EASILY. Your judgment is a big question. As is mom's judgment for being with you.
Im on treatments which actually have cured 75-85% of the patients so far from the Hep C completely, it is almost the new "CURE" for Hep C... So I am praying that in a couple of months this is the case with me and it is not even a issue.
Bottom line.. can anybody make a case for the child being in danger, NO. Is the mother unfit, absolutely not.
INitial determination of custody. He has 3 days a week. It wouldn't take much to swing him to 4 days a week and make him PRIMARY custodian. I could make a heck of a case based on your postings. That is without any more information. If I had time and represented dad, I could do enough to damage that your girlfriend would most likely dump you.
Please More input from all sides.... except that one guy who thinks you can get Hep C from a cough, haha lunatic.
Parents should remember 3 things: Love your kids more than you hate your ex; when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death; your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in.
Nothing stated by me should be taken as giving you legal advice or forming an attorney/client relationship.
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