Please HELP CUSTODY BATTLE, HEP C LAWS?!?!?!

[MichaCA]

Sorry about your step-dad CJane.

And I DON'T want to spread hearsay...if it were me, simply to clarify for yourself and possibly the courts (OP's boyfriend), why not research to help the dad, grandma out? Give them some info.

I know you want to bypass the recovery theme, however, I still think thats relevant and am curious if grandma knows about the DUI.

 

[WittyUserName]

I agree with CJane. My best friend has Hep C (blood transfusion in the 70's) and she is very well-educated on the subject. She's a doctor, so she would be No risk to her patients or her family - and she gave birth to a beautiful healthy baby girl.

I'd think the DUI and related issues would be more of a worry, personally.

 

[beeyamz]

Hahahaha.. Wow on the reply of Hep C being easier trasmitted than HIV hahahaha just please dont leave anymore posts because you are highly uneducated on the subject matter obviously. Me being infected have talked with countless doctors n specialists about the disease and actually it is HARDER to trasmit than the average person thinks. If you wanna get factual the C.D.C. (Center for Disease Control) does not even recommend that use of a condom be used during regular intercourse, anything non high risk. Only time a condom is referred for Hep C is for Anal Sex, because tearing of tissues aka blood exposure.. The facts are that the odds of me giving my disease to etheir my girlfriend or her little girl are less than 1%. I don't know exactly who you talked to but next time you see them my advice to you would be to tell them to stop giving out advice on Hep C, because thats people like you become extremely misinformed...

Okayy now that I have cleared up that issue.


I am 22, my girlfriend she is 24, the daughter she is 3yrs of age. The father is active in the childs life but, his motives may be questionable. Before he began a relationship with his current girlfriend which by the way is pregnant, he was fine with having no custody at all, my girlfriend had full custody. When he asked for shared, it didnt even go to court becuase my girlfriend feels that the Father should play a part in the childs life obviously...

The girlfriend of the ex, has numerous times put her business in where it is not belonged and over stepped boundaried many of times. We have saved texts and things of that nature of her saying she can't handle the child, and cannot make her behave in the dentist office. My girlfriend has a log of all the doctor appointments for the child and she has taken her to almost every single one.. We beleive we are much more stable a family, and all the important tasks in the child life have been taken care of by the mother.

The father does have the right to take her to court anytime, but she has to prove she is unfit and the child's welfare is in danger, and that is not an issue I do not beleive what so ever.

The D.U.I. occured over a year ago, and the only reason sentencing hasn't concluded is continuations.. Yes I agree it is a charactor blemish on me. But still do not beleive it is enuff for the custody of my girlfriend's to be revoked or deminished in any way..

I am not a bad person, and I am sober. Other than a few beers every when I watch my Jaguars on sundays or a few drinks when the UFC PPV's are on I don't even drink hardly. If we do drink, it is when the child is with the father. We don't even smoke cigerettes around here.

Heres the kicker, my girlfriend is actually a "germ-a-phobe", she has been before she even knew of my disease. She cleans everything and everywhere our apartment is spotless and you could probably eat off our toilets. I do not beleive that my girlfriend or her daughter are at any risk at all of contracting my Hep C, especially after injections dimish viral loads.

Im on treatments which actually have cured 75-85% of the patients so far from the Hep C completely, it is almost the new "CURE" for Hep C... So I am praying that in a couple of months this is the case with me and it is not even a issue.

Bottom line.. can anybody make a case for the child being in danger, NO. Is the mother unfit, absolutely not.


Please More input from all sides.... except that one guy who thinks you can get Hep C from a cough, haha lunatic.

 

[beeyamz]

CJ JANE, Thank you for giving some education to this ignorance... I am not a risk to anybody, oh actually I am... less than 1%.. they also could get hit by a bus tomorrow....

 

[Ohiogal]

I am 22,

How old were you when you got your DUI? How old were you when you were using drugs? How old were you in rehab? You graduated 3 years ago at the age of 19?

my girlfriend she is 24, the daughter she is 3yrs of age. The father is active in the childs life but, his motives may be questionable.

YOU are NOT the one to question HIS motives regarding HIS child. You need to back off from there. Your sobriety is questionable. Your motives are questionable. Should we continue about what else can be questioned? You need to keep your suppositions regarding the CHILD'S father to yourself.

Before he began a relationship with his current girlfriend which by the way is pregnant, he was fine with having no custody at all, my girlfriend had full custody. When he asked for shared, it didnt even go to court becuase my girlfriend feels that the Father should play a part in the childs life obviously...

His girlfriend being pregnant matters not. No court orders regarding custody? None at all?

The girlfriend of the ex, has numerous times put her business in where it is not belonged and over stepped boundaried many of times. We have saved texts and things of that nature of her saying she can't handle the child, and cannot make her behave in the dentist office.

You slam the girlfriend of the ex in one breath and then you start using WE as though YOU matter. You don't. You are just overstepping and have boundary issues as girlfriend does.

My girlfriend has a log of all the doctor appointments for the child and she has taken her to almost every single one.. We beleive we are much more stable a family, and all the important tasks in the child life have been taken care of by the mother.

You are a drug addict who apparently couldn't graduate high school on time. You also have problems with alcohol. Was your DUI after you turned 21 or before? Do you have your license back yet?

The father does have the right to take her to court anytime, but she has to prove she is unfit and the child's welfare is in danger, and that is not an issue I do not beleive what so ever.

WRONG. At the initial custody determination both parents stand equal. It is strictly based on the child's best interests.

The D.U.I. occured over a year ago, and the only reason sentencing hasn't concluded is continuations.. Yes I agree it is a charactor blemish on me. But still do not beleive it is enuff for the custody of my girlfriend's to be revoked or deminished in any way..

Over a year ago and you are 22. Again, did this DUI take place when you were 20? Your character blemishes are drug addiction/use as well as alcohol issues as well as hep C. Your judgment sucks.

I am not a bad person, and I am sober. Other than a few beers every when I watch my Jaguars on sundays or a few drinks when the UFC PPV's are on I don't even drink hardly. If we do drink, it is when the child is with the father. We don't even smoke cigerettes around here.

Then you are not sober if you drink. You have problems with drugs and alcohol. Your history is proof of that.

Heres the kicker, my girlfriend is actually a "germ-a-phobe", she has been before she even knew of my disease. She cleans everything and everywhere our apartment is spotless and you could probably eat off our toilets. I do not beleive that my girlfriend or her daughter are at any risk at all of contracting my Hep C, especially after injections dimish viral loads.

That is not a kicker. There are issues including your attitude.

Im on treatments which actually have cured 75-85% of the patients so far from the Hep C completely, it is almost the new "CURE" for Hep C... So I am praying that in a couple of months this is the case with me and it is not even a issue.

Bottom line.. can anybody make a case for the child being in danger, NO. Is the mother unfit, absolutely not.

Mom does not have to be unfit. That is what you don't get. You are overstepping. You are an addict (once an addict always an addict). I could make a case against you EASILY. Your judgment is a big question. As is mom's judgment for being with you.

Please More input from all sides.... except that one guy who thinks you can get Hep C from a cough, haha lunatic.

INitial determination of custody. He has 3 days a week. It wouldn't take much to swing him to 4 days a week and make him PRIMARY custodian. I could make a heck of a case based on your postings. That is without any more information. If I had time and represented dad, I could do enough to damage that your girlfriend would most likely dump you.

 

[MichaCA]

Don't want to hijack...I apologize for my inaccurate posts about Hep C. They were based on a conversation so I should have left them out. It is true, the person who told me that, was told that herself many years ago...she has suffered with Hep C all of her life so it wasn't completely out of the blue.

She did give birth to a child, who was in the very small percentage of kids who contracted Hep C while in the womb. Maybe thats a no brainer...don't know...just know that happened and was with her when she found out from her doctor. Thanks.

 

[stealth2]

So I'll ask again - since you and Mom don't see any risk to the child, why does Mom not simply tell Dad of your HepC status?

 

[necessary evil]

I had to throw in my 2 cents..

My husband has Hep-C and we have 2 children together. Every pregnancy I was tested just to be sure and have always come up clean. The children being exposed to a person with Hep-C is not likely to be cause for removal of the children. CPS has been involved with my hubby & his ex and they had no issues whatsoever with the Hep-C.

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carry on..

 

[ecmst12]

My grandmother has hep C, got it when she was a nurse I think during WW2. I didn't even KNOW about it until a few years ago, it certainly never caused any problems with raising her family or anything else.

 

[breezybaby26]

Does anyone else see how negative Ohiogal is being? I mean really. People aren't perfect and they come on here asking questions. Ya maybe beeyamz story is questionable but I don't think it is fair nor right to say "once an addict, always an addict." That is NOT true by any means. I'm only saying that input is asked but negativity and accusations aren't. We should treat others how we would want to be treated. Are you a prosecuter Ohiogal. If not you would be a good one. They are awesome at seeing only the bad in people therefore making them good at their job. Beeyamz, you should tell the father and face the music so to speak just so you can't be black mailed any more.

 

[stealth2]

I have never oversteped boundaried I am sorry to all who are giving good advice, however, Ohiogal I do not want you to post any more replies you are ignorant and rude, ignorant means stupid buddy...

You don't get to dictate that. It is a public board, and anyone can reply to your posts. Oh and... you're no rocket scientist, yourself.

We have not told the father because legally we do not have too unless we are married, by law HEP C and me having it not the mother is not considered a threat to the child's health..

Well, Mom is being very foolish.

If the grandmother tells the father I am having her arrested, because there is a law in PA discouraging the slander of people with terminal illnesses including HEP C, plus the kicker here is.. SHE WORKS IN A HOSPITAL.. UH OH!?!?!?!? Not only will she be arrested but her career and life professionally speaking would be over. Now I really do not want to do this to the mother of the girl I love but if she goes ahead and tells him before we sit down and do it ourselves, thats the way its gonna go and its gonna get messy..

LOL It isn't slander, beezkneez. You have HepC, so she's telling Dad the truth. I seriously doubt her career will be affected for telling the father of her grandchild something that her daughter apparently told her.

Thanks so much for all the positive input from everybody other than Ohiogal, do not post again if you do I'll not read a charactor of it...

Again - not your call to make.

P.S.: Thanks guys for supporting me and ripping Ohiogal a new one for their post, that was completely uneducated and quite frankley had cruel intentions. He knows nothing about me. I have never over stepped my boundaries and I am not a bad person becuase I made a few mistakes. I am nowhere near a drug addict, I have the occainsional beer thats it...

Oh, did anyone rip OG a new one? Except you (and you didn't do a good job of it, btw)? Oh, breezyone. LOL Yeah, right. That was a huge *rip*. Phhht. Not. And it IS true - once an addict, always an addict. You don't CURE addiction. One can become clean, but it is always a struggle. As witnessed by beezkneez (recent) DUI.

Please lets keep the replies more focused on custody battles and whether or not my HEP C could be a problem.

Your HepC most certainly could be a problem in that keeping it a secret will affect Mom's and Dad's co-parenting relationship. If you care about her and the child as much as you claim to, that would be something you'd be concerned about.

 

[Ohiogal]

I have never oversteped boundaried I am sorry to all who are giving good advice, however, Ohiogal I do not want you to post any more replies you are ignorant and rude, ignorant means stupid buddy...

You are ignorant by believing ignorant means stupid. It does not. They are two different words with very different meanings. You are too ignorant to realize that. You also don't dictate who I answer or what threads I post upon.

We have not told the father because legally we do not have too unless we are married, by law HEP C and me having it not the mother is not considered a threat to the child's health..

And?

If the grandmother tells the father I am having her arrested, because there is a law in PA discouraging the slander of people with terminal illnesses including HEP C,

It wouldn't be slander for her to tell dad you have HEP C. That would be true. No slander. More ignorance from you.

plus the kicker here is.. SHE WORKS IN A HOSPITAL.. UH OH!?!?!?!? Not only will she be arrested but her career and life professionally speaking would be over.

Really? How do you figure? How did she find out you have HEP C? Did her daughter tell her? If so then there is absolutely NO THREAT to her career. More ignorance from you.

Now I really do not want to do this to the mother of the girl I love but if she goes ahead and tells him before we sit down and do it ourselves, thats the way its gonna go and its gonna get messy..

Messy for you. Because she wouldn't be doing anything wrong. She would NOT be arrested for telling the baby's daddy the TRUTH about you -- that you have HEP C.

Thanks so much for all the positive input from everybody other than Ohiogal, do not post again if you do I'll not read a charactor of it...

You can't spell either. More ignorance from the drug addict.

Thanks the examples of the custody battles with the HEp C involved from the one poster was very much comforting to me and my girlfriend and our situation..

Oh okay.

P.S.: Thanks guys for supporting me and ripping Ohiogal a new one for their post, that was completely uneducated and quite frankley had cruel intentions. He knows nothing about me.

Let us see how many stupid remarks (different from ignorant) are in that comment -- I count four stupid things.

I have never over stepped my boundaries and I am not a bad person becuase I made a few mistakes. I am nowhere near a drug addict, I have the occainsional beer thats it...

You ARE a drug addict. You may be in recovery but you are a drug addict. that is a fact. YOU used what drugs when you were young and marginally more stupid than you are now?

Please lets keep the replies more focused on custody battles and whether or not my HEP C could be a problem.

YOU are the problem in a custody battle.