melissa841979
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)Rhode Island
My fiancé’s ex wife divorced HIM, they have been divorced since 2007. I began dating my fiance in November 2008.
Our dilemma right now is that we haven't seen my husbands son since January because he asked to have his son on Christmas Eve and the ex said fine.... then 4 days before Christmas Eve she said no and he could do nothing about it (they do not have set holiday visitation written specifically in the divorce decree which was SO stupid for him not to arrange when they got the divorce) she then told everyone that he didn't WANT to see his son and that she gave him other options for Christmas and he refused. As God as my witness, that DID NOT happen!! Then to add to the mess his the ex decided to withhold visitation from him indefinitely until she got our address which up until then she had never asked for before because my fiancé picks up and drops off his son for his weekly visits so the the ex had no need to know it. After all this happened in the span of 2 weeks my fiancé went and filed a motion to get their divorce decree amended in writing to decide a specific visitation schedule for holidays and every week. As soon as the the ex got my fiancé’s motion to amend the decree she turned around, took her parent’s money (because she does not have a job and is pregnant by her live in boyfriend) and hired a lawyer. She has since slapped us with bogus motions that include (among many others) her saying I make their 4 yr old son call me Mom (which I never, ever have!!) she says we BOTH say disparaging remarks to her son about her, use foul language in front of him and she wants me to undergo a psychiatric evaluation clearing me of mental illness before I am allowed around her son again!!!! There is absolutely no basis for these accusations and I’m surprised her lawyer let her file these stupid motions in the first place. Since she does not have a job she is also trying to say she does not have the funds to file these motions so she wants my fiancé to pay HER lawyer for them!!! Unfortunately my fiancé cannot afford a lawyer to even defend himself so how can he pay for hers?!
When they went to court the first time the ex told her version of events and the judge said the stories were so different about what goes on that the judge wanted a family investigator to come out to both homes and conduct interviews, and instead of making the ex stop withholding visitation on her own accord the judge also ordered once a week 1 hour supervised visitation between my fiance and his son at the courthouse until the next court date! Then she pulled the I'm pregnant and I'm sick card so she didn't show up for the last court date so it got continued again. We now have court tomorrow. If it gets continued again I don't know what we are going to do!!!
My fiancé’s ex wife divorced HIM, they have been divorced since 2007. I began dating my fiance in November 2008.
Our dilemma right now is that we haven't seen my husbands son since January because he asked to have his son on Christmas Eve and the ex said fine.... then 4 days before Christmas Eve she said no and he could do nothing about it (they do not have set holiday visitation written specifically in the divorce decree which was SO stupid for him not to arrange when they got the divorce) she then told everyone that he didn't WANT to see his son and that she gave him other options for Christmas and he refused. As God as my witness, that DID NOT happen!! Then to add to the mess his the ex decided to withhold visitation from him indefinitely until she got our address which up until then she had never asked for before because my fiancé picks up and drops off his son for his weekly visits so the the ex had no need to know it. After all this happened in the span of 2 weeks my fiancé went and filed a motion to get their divorce decree amended in writing to decide a specific visitation schedule for holidays and every week. As soon as the the ex got my fiancé’s motion to amend the decree she turned around, took her parent’s money (because she does not have a job and is pregnant by her live in boyfriend) and hired a lawyer. She has since slapped us with bogus motions that include (among many others) her saying I make their 4 yr old son call me Mom (which I never, ever have!!) she says we BOTH say disparaging remarks to her son about her, use foul language in front of him and she wants me to undergo a psychiatric evaluation clearing me of mental illness before I am allowed around her son again!!!! There is absolutely no basis for these accusations and I’m surprised her lawyer let her file these stupid motions in the first place. Since she does not have a job she is also trying to say she does not have the funds to file these motions so she wants my fiancé to pay HER lawyer for them!!! Unfortunately my fiancé cannot afford a lawyer to even defend himself so how can he pay for hers?!
When they went to court the first time the ex told her version of events and the judge said the stories were so different about what goes on that the judge wanted a family investigator to come out to both homes and conduct interviews, and instead of making the ex stop withholding visitation on her own accord the judge also ordered once a week 1 hour supervised visitation between my fiance and his son at the courthouse until the next court date! Then she pulled the I'm pregnant and I'm sick card so she didn't show up for the last court date so it got continued again. We now have court tomorrow. If it gets continued again I don't know what we are going to do!!!
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