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My husband and I live in ID. My husband's ex wife lives in OR (which is where the divorce and custody arrangements took place) with full custody of his two daughters who are 6 and 9. We recently found out that their education is being extremely neglected. The 9 year old has been absent 18 times in 2 months and tardy another 10 times. Neither one of the girls have any major medical problems so this is unacceptable in my book. She also has not turned in any homework over the last two months, shows anxiety in class because she is so behind, does not understand the math that she is in and has to have her own math test, and is not excelling or meeting the standard milestones a 3rd grader should meet. She is a very smart girl, however her mother is not helping her or encouraging her to do her school work. One night during a phone call my husband asked her if she had any homework. She then said, "Oh no, Mom we forgot to do my homework." And her mother's response was, "I don't care." His daughters teacher has tried to contact his ex wife, however she has not returned phone calls or emails and has been very neglectful of their education. In the beginning of the year she was tested and was in the 40-50th percentile for her knowledge base and now she is in around the 5th percentile. With the 6 year old, she has been absent 25 times with just about the same amount of tardies as the 9 year old. She is in kindergarten so the work load is very minimal and she is not as far behind as the older daughter. However there are some milestones that she is not meeting either.
Learning of all of this makes me sick. I know that we are the better choice to raise these girls, however OR is a mommy state. My husbands ex-wife has multiple documented mental health disorders and we don't believe she is fit to take care of them. We called CPS to talk to them about their schooling and OR CPS doesn't do anything to enforce education, etc from our understanding. We have a long list of things that we feel are neglectful and not taking care of the kids as they should be, but we haven't felt like it was strong enough to get custody. Does their education and lack of help from home, etc give us a good enough case to push for full custody? We don't know what else to do. If we wait it'll just get worse and I don't want to think about where those girls will be at that time for their education level. Suggestions?
My husband and I live in ID. My husband's ex wife lives in OR (which is where the divorce and custody arrangements took place) with full custody of his two daughters who are 6 and 9. We recently found out that their education is being extremely neglected. The 9 year old has been absent 18 times in 2 months and tardy another 10 times. Neither one of the girls have any major medical problems so this is unacceptable in my book. She also has not turned in any homework over the last two months, shows anxiety in class because she is so behind, does not understand the math that she is in and has to have her own math test, and is not excelling or meeting the standard milestones a 3rd grader should meet. She is a very smart girl, however her mother is not helping her or encouraging her to do her school work. One night during a phone call my husband asked her if she had any homework. She then said, "Oh no, Mom we forgot to do my homework." And her mother's response was, "I don't care." His daughters teacher has tried to contact his ex wife, however she has not returned phone calls or emails and has been very neglectful of their education. In the beginning of the year she was tested and was in the 40-50th percentile for her knowledge base and now she is in around the 5th percentile. With the 6 year old, she has been absent 25 times with just about the same amount of tardies as the 9 year old. She is in kindergarten so the work load is very minimal and she is not as far behind as the older daughter. However there are some milestones that she is not meeting either.
Learning of all of this makes me sick. I know that we are the better choice to raise these girls, however OR is a mommy state. My husbands ex-wife has multiple documented mental health disorders and we don't believe she is fit to take care of them. We called CPS to talk to them about their schooling and OR CPS doesn't do anything to enforce education, etc from our understanding. We have a long list of things that we feel are neglectful and not taking care of the kids as they should be, but we haven't felt like it was strong enough to get custody. Does their education and lack of help from home, etc give us a good enough case to push for full custody? We don't know what else to do. If we wait it'll just get worse and I don't want to think about where those girls will be at that time for their education level. Suggestions?
