Originally Posted by LdiJ
What attachment studies is this claim based upon? New fathers are no less capable of trading off in the care of their infant child than are new mothers. Infants quickly know and respond to their primary caregivers.
Attachment studies showing attachment disorders such as RAD show that attachment problems are due to repeated LOSS of caregivers to which they have begun to be attached, as what occurs in orphanage systems. Additionally, attachment is thought to occur through the process of the primary caregiver(s) showing the child a pattern of consistantly "meeting their needs", meaning being the face they see when the cry and are then held and comforted, being feed when hungry and so on. Dad should have the opportunity to be the parent who meets their child's needs as much as mom does. They are babies for such a short time. Why should he miss 75% of the parenting time in infancy? I missed my kids infancy and one can never go back and get a chance to experience it once past.
Most studies show that children of seperate parents household in general do better when they get shared parenting, rather than dad always being merely a visitor. In married households, a child has no problem having mom or dad act as caregiver. Both parents can provide nurturing environments for a child, and the child will experience the love of both their parents.
Last edited by nextwife; 07-21-2004 at 06:47 PM.
Adoptive parents ARE "real" parents. Sharing genes is not what makes you a "parent"!