Mom_3_cali
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
I have 2 children from a man we were never married but he is on birth certificates.
We broke up about 6 months ago. He picked kids up whenever he wanted (or lack thereof). I finally got him to agree to certain days. It's been a few months yet he fights me for every petty little thing. I finally file with the court and have him served. Papers state he can have reasonable visitation but with certain restrictions such as he can't drive as he has multiple DUIs, he can't have overnights as kids were on floor, and he wasn't watching them (they got in trouble under his care).
He says nothing is official yet until the judge signs off so he is now stating he will see kids from our agreement (which was an email it was never filed with a court). He has someone else driving kids so he can't be caught driving.
It's a double edge sword because I can say no as we have no order but if I say no I look like i'm alienating him as a parent.
I have no problem with him being a parent if he were but he is not acting in the best interest of the children.
What can I do between now and the actual court date which at least 6 weeks away?
I have 2 children from a man we were never married but he is on birth certificates.
We broke up about 6 months ago. He picked kids up whenever he wanted (or lack thereof). I finally got him to agree to certain days. It's been a few months yet he fights me for every petty little thing. I finally file with the court and have him served. Papers state he can have reasonable visitation but with certain restrictions such as he can't drive as he has multiple DUIs, he can't have overnights as kids were on floor, and he wasn't watching them (they got in trouble under his care).
He says nothing is official yet until the judge signs off so he is now stating he will see kids from our agreement (which was an email it was never filed with a court). He has someone else driving kids so he can't be caught driving.
It's a double edge sword because I can say no as we have no order but if I say no I look like i'm alienating him as a parent.
I have no problem with him being a parent if he were but he is not acting in the best interest of the children.
What can I do between now and the actual court date which at least 6 weeks away?