Private school

[cdogzena1]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia My ex-husband and I have joint legal and physical custody. He has enrolled our son in private school and insists that I pay half. I am unemployed and am a full time nursing student. I am living with my parents and have no money of my own and my parents cannot afford to pay half. Can anyone give me some advice?

 

[RRevak]

Do your court orders address schooling?

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Virginia My ex-husband and I have joint legal and physical custody. He has enrolled our son in private school and insists that I pay half. I am unemployed and am a full time nursing student. I am living with my parents and have no money of my own and my parents cannot afford to pay half. Can anyone give me some advice?

I can almost guarantee that a judge would not require you to pay for 1/2 of private schooling if you did not participate in making the decision and did not agree in advance to pay 1/2. I have yet to see a single case where a judge ordered a parent to pay 1/2 of private schooling in that scenario.

The times I do see it happening is when the child was in private school while the parents were together, and one parent wanted to pull them out of private schooling after they split up.

I will also add that since you have joint legal a physical custody, your ex did not have the right to make the decision to enroll the child in private school at all without your agreement. If you have any objection to the private school, you can take the matter to court.

 

[cdogzena1]

Do your court orders address schooling?

No it does not.

 

[cdogzena1]

I can almost guarantee that a judge would not require you to pay for 1/2 of private schooling if you did not participate in making the decision and did not agree in advance to pay 1/2. I have yet to see a single case where a judge ordered a parent to pay 1/2 of private schooling in that scenario.

The times I do see it happening is when the child was in private school while the parents were together, and one parent wanted to pull them out of private schooling after they split up.

I will also add that since you have joint legal a physical custody, your ex did not have the right to make the decision to enroll the child in private school at all without your agreement. If you have any objection to the private school, you can take the matter to court.

Thank you for your help. He is also telling me that I have to pay for a school physical before 8/28/14. Do you have any advice on what I should do? School starts the day after Labor Day. I know court would be an option but I doubt that anything would be heard before that time.

 

[Isis1]

Thank you for your help. He is also telling me that I have to pay for a school physical before 8/28/14. Do you have any advice on what I should do? School starts the day after Labor Day. I know court would be an option but I doubt that anything would be heard before that time.

in the spirit of co-parenting....i won't say what you should tell your ex to do with his "you have to" BS.


say, "No".

 

[LdiJ]

Thank you for your help. He is also telling me that I have to pay for a school physical before 8/28/14. Do you have any advice on what I should do? School starts the day after Labor Day. I know court would be an option but I doubt that anything would be heard before that time.

You simply tell him no. You tell him that since you never agreed to your child attending private school that you are not required to assist in paying for it. You let him take you to court if he still thinks that you should pay.

 

[Ohiogal]

Was the child in private school last year? When was the decision made for private school? What does the court order state regarding paying for the children's expenses?

 

[RRevak]

Are there no good public or charter schools in the area? (I have a reason for asking seniors)

 

[cdogzena1]

Was the child in private school last year? When was the decision made for private school? What does the court order state regarding paying for the children's expenses?

I was bullied into agreeing to private school last year. I was making minimum wage and had to ask my grandparents to pay when it got so far behind they were going to throw him out of school. Our child is exchanged monthly and there is no monetary order for expenses. Whoever has the child pays for what he needs.

 

[cdogzena1]

Are there no good public or charter schools in the area? (I have a reason for asking seniors)

There is a very good public school nearby to my house.

 

[single317dad]

I was bullied into agreeing to private school last year.

Please clarify. Given the circumstances you described, it was pretty clear you couldn't afford to send the child to private school. What compelled you to do so?

 

[Silverplum]

How many more years of nursing school do you have to complete?

 

[cdogzena1]

Please clarify. Given the circumstances you described, it was pretty clear you couldn't afford to send the child to private school. What compelled you to do so?

He gave me two options : private school thru his church or homeschooling. He also threatened to have his son taken to social services and put in foster care. ( I don't know if he could do that but the threat was given. I had enrolled him in public school and that is when he threatened me with that.

 

[cdogzena1]

How many more years of nursing school do you have to complete?

Just until April 2015