What is the name of your state? CA. I have finally decided to divorce my husband with whom we have 3 children. He is bipolar and does not take medication and is getting increasingly mentally abusive and has stepped over the line once with pushing and grabbing me. (stupidly I did not call the cops- no marks anyway) How do I prove that he is an unfit parent? I could not leave the children with him for long and I don't want him out of their lives I just want him stable and on meds. That has not happend for six years so I am not holding my breath. Right now the children hardly ever see him. He leaves for work and then goes out at night. Even when he can see them he doesn't. He yells at them and threatens to beat the **** out of them. He split our oldest sons lip once when he smacked his mouth for saying a bad word. Only people that know are me, husband, son and my parents - which are totally biased. Any advice would be helpful. I would like full physical and legal custody but I would like my kids to be able to see their dad for short visits (long ones would get my hsuband to aggrevated)