As you already know, the best bet for obtaining a psychological evaluation of your ex is to Ask your attorney to petition the court or to ask the court to appoint a GAL, the GAL would in turn ask for this if their investigation suggested such evaluations were in the best interest of the children.
If I HAD known this I wouldn't have asked now would I? I was under the impression that it was court ordered by the judge based on the erratic behavior of my ex-wife rather than the evaluation of a Gal.
You have come to this site, refering other posters to different law sites rather than refering them to attorneya, in one case, where it was CA specific case and a CA attorney had refered them twice to an attorney because it was not appropriate to advise over the internet because it was too complex. So you don't seem to have much respect for the advice you receive here and you already indicated that you knew about the option of a GAL.
On MANY occasions I have asked questions that went unaswered; my references since I am NOT an attorney were for the sake of posters who for the most part did NOT receive a response from an attorney or other poster here- I was merely offering as much assistance as I hoped to receive for my posts- even if from a non lawyer. Now, think about this to yourself...if I had no respect for the advice I receive here, why would I continue to come here whenever I had legal questions I need answered? Recent events have made it that I have my children MUCH more often than even my ex-wife and I have realised just how much her efforts at destroying my character in their eyes is affecting them, especially in school- I HAVE NO TIME to play games here; I ask for advice and when I receive good advice I am grateful.
I am concerned that even though you live across from your children and thus should have easier contact, it may in fact be too close because you seem to be doing the same thing you accuse your ex of doing. You say she says bad things about you, yet think nothing about calling her names. Perhaps you should seek counseling first in addition to advice from your attorney. If your children are in danger or indicate abuse, call the police or CPS.
Now this one got me upset because I try so hard to be the bigger person with every encounter with my children and every reference to my ex-wife. I ENSURE that there is no demeaning references- nothing of the sort BECAUSE I know she speaks ill of me IN THEIR PRESENCE. I am however, only human and when she does a particular heinous thing, I get pissed off. When I come to this forum to ask for advice it is only as DEADLUNCH...I can call her a heinous, venemous, vile person because I am an anonymous user who is upset that his children are being used as a weapon. When it comes back time to be daddy- that's what I am...and I don the mask of respect for their mother in their presence. As for why it is I didn't get them as often as I should....come now, if you are an attorney, surely you know how the court system works...SHE LIED...and the judge believed her. She lied about how often I had them before we went to court, she lied about my involvement in their lives...she lied lied lied... and got away with it. She denied me visitation for four months- since it was not court ordered; I actually thought she would respect the arrangement we made, silly me for thinking that- claimed a whole lot of nonsense which were ALL proven to be unfounded by acs and got FULL custody, because the judge said she was the parent who had the children more often and since we couldn't agree- please tell me who ever AGREES in a divorce?- she was given full custody! I am in the process of retaining a lawyer so that I could have some say in my children's future...but it is a little expensive and so I come here to ask questions like these so that I wouldn't have to waste precious time and money in a consultation- I go in knowing what is or isn't feasible. I intend to call cps, but I want to be sure that when I do and when they are taken away from her they are given to me and not put through the foster care system. As I had said before, I am willing to go through an evaluation, counselling, parenting classes, whatever it takes for my children- you name it I am willing to do it, but I want their mother to have to do it too. I know what I want and what happens are two different things which is why I came here asking for ADVICE. I guess I did get my answer in the beginning of your post so thank you...and so ends my tirade.
