hello, my ex and i live in kansas. i am 22 and my ex is 19.
well to be honest this is a very complicated situation. my ex and i do not have a custody agreement (yet) but i want custody of my son. i am not the biological father of him, i have been with her since she was three months pregnant. i am the father on the birth ceritficate, and I AM HIS FATHER. with that said my son is now 16 monthes old, and he is great.
the problem is that she has him. im not sure what the qualifications for unfit mother are but i have no idea how she doesnt fit some if not all of them. she smokes marijuana, in front of him, i have even been told that she blew it in his face to try and calm him down.
i broke up with her because she, well craves male attention, to be nice. myspace was the worst thing ever created, at least for her. but anyway, she has men constantly coming and going. parties at all hours.
she is constantly pawning my son off on anyone she can so that she can go out. "parents deserve a break" is her excuse. im not even worried about the underage drinking.
she goes on and on how she wishes she had never had him. her ex-step sister even told me that she has thrown him several times (even left a knot on his head)
she has her mother living with her, normally not a big deal except her mother is a known drug dealer
she is a pathological liar, to the point that she tells people she has cancer, she has fabricated her entire history, ive never seen anything quite like it.
i dont want sole custody, i just want hime to live with me, i feel he deserves better than that. i want her to be appart of his life, no child should go without a mother, but if he stays around her the way he is, well im just scared. i guess im just looking for idvice on whether this constitutes being an unfit mother or not, and the next steps i need to take~ thanks for your attention