I am from Michigan and this question is for my friend who is going through a divorce right now.
She (lets call her Mia) originally filled about 1 and a half years ago and the courts were dragging it out for awhile due their child. Both of them missed a court date, thinking it was the following day, and the court made them refile. Anyway, her husband (let's call him Caleb) is filing this time.
Question about Alimony: Mia put aside school and stayed home fulltime to take care of their daughter and allow Caleb to go to school while working. She read somewhere that since she did she might be eligible for alimony until she gets on her feet. When they first filed it was when the marriage was only 3.5 years but now it will be about 5 years, which is apparently when alimony becomes an option in Michigan. Is that actually something she would be able to qualify for or is it not an option due to her first filing after only 3.5 years? (They were together 3 years before getting married and she was dependent on him the whole time.)
Question about Divorce: Caleb left his wife for someone else. Does adultery weigh in on divorce proceedings? He is currently living with this woman and they are apparently trying to have a baby. I know that personal choices usually aren't a legal matter but it seems kind of odd to have a child while still legally married and not paying child support on your first baby.
Very important Questions about Child Custody: Caleb has told Mia many times that he will take their daughter, Jessi, away from her. He has a really good, high paying job, and at the moment, as a former fulltime mom, Mia is struggling with a minimum wage job. Most of this is just talk to get her to do what he wants, specifically, not have to pay any child support. He didn't pay child support at all for a several months, even after the courts told him that he had to and an amount was agreed upon. It wasn't until he was informed that this would make his custody battle look terrible that he finally paid. (Mia has proof he didn't pay but she did not report him because she had been hoping for a smooth divorce and amicable split.)
He also does not take care of his daughter. He works nights and when he isn't working he is out drinking and leaves his girlfriend (the woman he was cheating with) to take care of Jessi. This is every weekend and usually the entire time. He has also just skipped weekends while still only paying child support for the original agreed upon amount (their current custody is he gets every weekend with her and she gets the week).
Finally, yesterday Mia was on Facebook when she saw a picture of her daughter (who is three) kissing a strange man on the lips (the man had his shirt off). This picture was not on Caleb's page, it was on the girlfriend's brother's page, (who it turned out was the stranger with his shirt off) When Mia confronted Caleb about it he said "Get over it." Either the brother had been spending the night at their apartment or Jessi was being babysat by him. Either way, it was an odd picture which she did screencap.
Now I know that the father has a right to his child and Caleb was one of my closest friends so I am not saying his child should be taken from him, but his blatant disregard for his child's safety is disconcerting. Also, it is known that his girlfriend was molested and possibly raped by a member of her family (she told Mia when they were still friends, before she was cheating with Caleb) but she's never said who, or if there is more then one, and she would never admit this in court.
I just want to know if she has a case? She didn't want to get a lawyer because she is really struggling right now but is seriously considering it. (although it would sap all her cash) should she get a lawyer? Does she have a case for full custody or at least one weekend a month?
She (lets call her Mia) originally filled about 1 and a half years ago and the courts were dragging it out for awhile due their child. Both of them missed a court date, thinking it was the following day, and the court made them refile. Anyway, her husband (let's call him Caleb) is filing this time.
Question about Alimony: Mia put aside school and stayed home fulltime to take care of their daughter and allow Caleb to go to school while working. She read somewhere that since she did she might be eligible for alimony until she gets on her feet. When they first filed it was when the marriage was only 3.5 years but now it will be about 5 years, which is apparently when alimony becomes an option in Michigan. Is that actually something she would be able to qualify for or is it not an option due to her first filing after only 3.5 years? (They were together 3 years before getting married and she was dependent on him the whole time.)
Question about Divorce: Caleb left his wife for someone else. Does adultery weigh in on divorce proceedings? He is currently living with this woman and they are apparently trying to have a baby. I know that personal choices usually aren't a legal matter but it seems kind of odd to have a child while still legally married and not paying child support on your first baby.
Very important Questions about Child Custody: Caleb has told Mia many times that he will take their daughter, Jessi, away from her. He has a really good, high paying job, and at the moment, as a former fulltime mom, Mia is struggling with a minimum wage job. Most of this is just talk to get her to do what he wants, specifically, not have to pay any child support. He didn't pay child support at all for a several months, even after the courts told him that he had to and an amount was agreed upon. It wasn't until he was informed that this would make his custody battle look terrible that he finally paid. (Mia has proof he didn't pay but she did not report him because she had been hoping for a smooth divorce and amicable split.)
He also does not take care of his daughter. He works nights and when he isn't working he is out drinking and leaves his girlfriend (the woman he was cheating with) to take care of Jessi. This is every weekend and usually the entire time. He has also just skipped weekends while still only paying child support for the original agreed upon amount (their current custody is he gets every weekend with her and she gets the week).
Finally, yesterday Mia was on Facebook when she saw a picture of her daughter (who is three) kissing a strange man on the lips (the man had his shirt off). This picture was not on Caleb's page, it was on the girlfriend's brother's page, (who it turned out was the stranger with his shirt off) When Mia confronted Caleb about it he said "Get over it." Either the brother had been spending the night at their apartment or Jessi was being babysat by him. Either way, it was an odd picture which she did screencap.
Now I know that the father has a right to his child and Caleb was one of my closest friends so I am not saying his child should be taken from him, but his blatant disregard for his child's safety is disconcerting. Also, it is known that his girlfriend was molested and possibly raped by a member of her family (she told Mia when they were still friends, before she was cheating with Caleb) but she's never said who, or if there is more then one, and she would never admit this in court.
I just want to know if she has a case? She didn't want to get a lawyer because she is really struggling right now but is seriously considering it. (although it would sap all her cash) should she get a lawyer? Does she have a case for full custody or at least one weekend a month?