thank for for the reply it is appreciated.No, it's not. Court orders are necessary because unfortunately most estranged parents can't manage to put their differences aside in order to be good co-parents. Or, less commonly, one parent can be a complete D while the other is relatively sane and normal. Court orders protect the rights of both parents but more importantly those orders are protecting the poor child/ren who have no say about whatever idiocy their parents bring forth.
So when Mom tells the court that you refuse to talk to her about it - remember she DID text you (and if you two are contentious you can bet your behind that she'll have proof she texted you) - what are you going to say? Seriously - what are you going to tell the judge?
"Well, we don't talk, your Honor".
"But Mom did notify you - why did you refuse to discuss this with her? Is it your intent to keep bucking against my order? Fine. Let's change it. Mom, you now have sole legal custody, which means you get to make all of the decisions. Period".
Do you see how this can work?
Now. I'm not saying Mom is in the right here. I'm not saying you're in the right here. I AM saying that you will not be able to stop Mom from exposing your mutual child to her choice of religion, just as she cannot stop you from exposing your mutual child to your religion (or lack thereof).
i did respond back to her and told her i was not aware of her choosing a religion and why she never even mentioned it to me and that i did not agree with it...she will continue with the dedication on said date but i think you are right at the end of the day we will both have to guide and teach her our own beliefs or lack thereof and let her decide
so the answers to my questions would be?
1. no
2. no
3. depends on church/pastor
4. n/a
thank you everyone who replied i read every reply and thought deeply about what you said