FierceFoxie
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? California
In 2010, I wanted to relocate to another city 2 1/2 hours away from dad. Dad would only let me move if I agreed to do all the transportation. We had to go through mediation and our mediated order stated that I would do all transportation. After 3 mediated appointments, we did not come to an agreement so we were sent the JCC route.
Dad suddenly requested full custody even though I was fulfilling all of my requirements as outlined in our mediated order which was never filed. We had to go through an evaluation. I was only asking that exchanges be done in a city halfway between where dad and I live.
The evaluator came back with his recommendation stating dad would have care and control of the child every 5th weekend of the month and that these 5th weekend exchanges were to take place in a specific city that is halfway between us.
At the hearing, the evaluator did not attend since neither of us had filed objections. Dad's lawyer argued that the 5th weekend was a supplement to what was in the mediated order and that it was an option should dad choose to have that visit. I told the judge my understanding was that every 5 weekends, dad would have a visit. Again dad's lawyer argued that the 5th weekend was a supplement and showed on the calendar how only a few months a year actually have 5 weekends in them and it would be those months in which dad would get to exercise that option to have the child if he chooses.
The lawyer also snuck back in our old order stating that the evaluator said in his orders that all orders not in conflict with this order shall remain in full force and effect. The judge mentioned that the order was from 2010 and the lawyer argued it was what we had been going by for the past 2 years. I was asked if I agree and I did; only I did not see that I would still be responsible for all transportation according to the old 2010 mediated order. It was my understanding that all exchanges would be done in that halfway city because as I stated, I thought the evaluator was suggesting that dad would now only see the child every 5 weekends.
The judge signed and filed the old 2010 mediated order as though it is a new 2012 one and signed the evaluator's orders too.
I went to the self help center and filed a motion to set aside the order with points that I signed in mistake or surprise. In alternative, I am asking to modify the exchange location to specifically say all exchanges are to be done in the city halfway.
What do I need to do to argue my point in court? I honestly read the evaluators order to say the exchanges would be done in that halfway city and not this new suggested "5th weekend option" dad's lawyer had interpreted. Financially I cannot afford this drive. I work from home and the past few months my business has suffered a tremendous loss in earnings.Some months it is $300 in gas and food not to mention I have to leave early on Friday's (stop my work day early) to drive him 2 1/2 hours and then on my way home I hit rush hour traffic so I get another 45 min added onto my drive home, so I am looking at 5-6 hours round trip. By the time I come home, I do not get to enjoy my weekend or enjoy the one weekend where I can just be an adult. My Sunday's are then rushed by the same thing. I have to leave pretty much after church to pick up my son from his dad and make it home in time for his bedtime.
In 2010, I wanted to relocate to another city 2 1/2 hours away from dad. Dad would only let me move if I agreed to do all the transportation. We had to go through mediation and our mediated order stated that I would do all transportation. After 3 mediated appointments, we did not come to an agreement so we were sent the JCC route.
Dad suddenly requested full custody even though I was fulfilling all of my requirements as outlined in our mediated order which was never filed. We had to go through an evaluation. I was only asking that exchanges be done in a city halfway between where dad and I live.
The evaluator came back with his recommendation stating dad would have care and control of the child every 5th weekend of the month and that these 5th weekend exchanges were to take place in a specific city that is halfway between us.
At the hearing, the evaluator did not attend since neither of us had filed objections. Dad's lawyer argued that the 5th weekend was a supplement to what was in the mediated order and that it was an option should dad choose to have that visit. I told the judge my understanding was that every 5 weekends, dad would have a visit. Again dad's lawyer argued that the 5th weekend was a supplement and showed on the calendar how only a few months a year actually have 5 weekends in them and it would be those months in which dad would get to exercise that option to have the child if he chooses.
The lawyer also snuck back in our old order stating that the evaluator said in his orders that all orders not in conflict with this order shall remain in full force and effect. The judge mentioned that the order was from 2010 and the lawyer argued it was what we had been going by for the past 2 years. I was asked if I agree and I did; only I did not see that I would still be responsible for all transportation according to the old 2010 mediated order. It was my understanding that all exchanges would be done in that halfway city because as I stated, I thought the evaluator was suggesting that dad would now only see the child every 5 weekends.
The judge signed and filed the old 2010 mediated order as though it is a new 2012 one and signed the evaluator's orders too.
I went to the self help center and filed a motion to set aside the order with points that I signed in mistake or surprise. In alternative, I am asking to modify the exchange location to specifically say all exchanges are to be done in the city halfway.
What do I need to do to argue my point in court? I honestly read the evaluators order to say the exchanges would be done in that halfway city and not this new suggested "5th weekend option" dad's lawyer had interpreted. Financially I cannot afford this drive. I work from home and the past few months my business has suffered a tremendous loss in earnings.Some months it is $300 in gas and food not to mention I have to leave early on Friday's (stop my work day early) to drive him 2 1/2 hours and then on my way home I hit rush hour traffic so I get another 45 min added onto my drive home, so I am looking at 5-6 hours round trip. By the time I come home, I do not get to enjoy my weekend or enjoy the one weekend where I can just be an adult. My Sunday's are then rushed by the same thing. I have to leave pretty much after church to pick up my son from his dad and make it home in time for his bedtime.
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