Everyone is entitled to their opinion. When I see a snarky comment by a SM, it raises my eyebrows and puts a different perspective on a situation. Mom was okay. Mom is now not okay. I don't think that Mom would have changed her mind without a reason.
Yes, you are citing school policy and assuring SM that she is not creating a legal issue. The fact that SM is concerned about that - well, that implies a less than stellar relationship. All children are negatively impacted when the adults in their lives do not get along - that far outweighs any benefit from SM showing up at the school.
Mom and Dad managed the tuition and volunteering for cash credits prior to SM being around. There is no reason for SM to be involved in it. If there was no tension, then SM could parade around the school all she wants. But since SM is concerned about legal standing - I 'd have to say there is tension, quite a bit of tension.
One has to wonder why it is so important to SM to volunteer instead of just stepping back and letting Mom and Dad handle it. I mean, really - is it that important that she's passing out cupcakes and/or that step child sees her in the school?
Yes, you are citing school policy and assuring SM that she is not creating a legal issue. The fact that SM is concerned about that - well, that implies a less than stellar relationship. All children are negatively impacted when the adults in their lives do not get along - that far outweighs any benefit from SM showing up at the school.
Mom and Dad managed the tuition and volunteering for cash credits prior to SM being around. There is no reason for SM to be involved in it. If there was no tension, then SM could parade around the school all she wants. But since SM is concerned about legal standing - I 'd have to say there is tension, quite a bit of tension.
One has to wonder why it is so important to SM to volunteer instead of just stepping back and letting Mom and Dad handle it. I mean, really - is it that important that she's passing out cupcakes and/or that step child sees her in the school?