rights of father? (if not on birth certificate)

[Silverplum]

not hardly, he can petition for visitation any time he wants, and he can be awarded visitation at given times when the court determines it.

I'm glad you wrote something here to clarify, fairisfair.

 

[AHA]

and will the wife's income be included in determining what daddy pays for child support?

I distinctly read that you didn't want any cs, what's up with this new "plan"?
He's good enough to pay for a kid, but not to share it?

 

[cooloonka]

lastly. my sister seems to be in a similar situation but i am siding with the father of ny nephew and not her.

my nephew is 7 and his father is not on the birth certificate and has not been court ordered to pay child support. however he has been making weekly payments and had weekly visitation since the child was born.
now my sister is married to a man whose conduct is questionable at best. he does not work. he is a bum. and yes what a wonderful family i have to save you the crytical typing. isn't life wonderful.....


so what should my nephew's father do in order to obtain some form of legal custody? he is a wonderful father and i am afraid he has been misinformed due to the answers i have recieved today.

 

[AHA]

so what should my nephew's father do in order to obtain some form of legal custody? he is a wonderful father and i am afraid he has been misinformed due to the answers i have recieved today.

He gets a lawyer, files for custody and hopes for the best.

Now, get back to your case and answer the questions.

 

[cooloonka]

its not that i didn't want cs. its that i was wondering 'what if' i didn't try to obtain cs.

 

[AHA]

its not that i didn't want cs. its that i was wondering 'what if' i didn't try to obtain cs.

I see, it's all about the $$$$$.

 

[cooloonka]

who wouldn't want cs if all the other crap is inevitable? however i didn't know the inevitable until moments ago. the wonderment of law forums.

 

[cooloonka]

its not all about the $$$$$. think harder.

 

[cooloonka]

its about wanting to educate myself about something very important. not wanting to make 2,3,4,5, mistakes. 1 is enough

 

[cooloonka]

he should definately have to buy groceries and clothes with me. it takes two to tango for sure. and two to pay the bills

 

[Silverplum]

who wouldn't want cs if all the other crap is inevitable? however i didn't know the inevitable until moments ago. the wonderment of law forums.

If you don't mind, I'd like to redirect your thinking a bit:

Having a father? Is not crap.
Knowing where one came from? Is not crap.
Half your baby's genes? Gee, I dunno. Can a kid be half-crap? What ARE you going to teach the kid? It's entirely up to you.

 

[AHA]

think harder.

Take your own advice and focus on the best interests of the kid (two parents, family etc), not how much cash you can get from the different "scenarios".

 

[MrsK]

its not all about the $$$$$. think harder.

I urge you to do the same. And by "harder", what I mean is "about adoption". Please, oh please. You need to think about what is best for your child and obviously that is not being raised by you, playing tug of war with the kiddo to get back @ daddy, his money, his wife, and her money.

 

[lizbeth17]

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I'm glad you wrote something here to clarify, fairisfair.

i would've done it had i known you were confused...

 

[Silverplum]

i would've done it had i known you were confused...

No need to be snippy. If you have a problem with me, personally, you may take it to PM.