foggydreams
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law) - Oregon
Shortly before we were married my ex was convicted of Rape 3. I knew this going into the relationship.
During the time we were together, he failed polygraphs repeatedly (13 times) on having sexual contact with minors. (Which was confusing, because we were together most of the time, and he had no contact with minors that I knew of.) Part of me has never trusted him. He had some pretty lose morals to begin with.
He never wanted kids, and it was a surprise when we found out we were pregnant 5 years after we were married. She is now 2 and a half. By the time our daughter had been born, he had completed his Sex Offender Registration classes, but is still not listed as having graduated because he still owes the state money. Because of the nature of his crime, he is required to register as a sex offender for life.
My ex and I separated in April. Our separation involved him cheating on me with multiple other people, him trying to coerce me into swinging, becoming angry and aggressive when I refused, and just a general distrust of him.
He never really showed my daughter much affection, and it was only after we separated that he ever showed any real interest in her life. Even still, he has not been around to see her at all in the last month. The last time he spent time with her was New Years Eve.
I have started filling out the divorce paperwork, and I am to the point of visitation and custody. Because my ex never really showed her any affection, and did not really want kids in the first place it was agreed that I would have full custody.
He is now stating that he wants overnight visitation, and unsupervised visits with her. I am worried. Part of me does not trust him alone with my daughter. I am also worried about him becoming violent if I tell him why I do not want her to be unsupervised with him.
Is he required to have visitation time? She does love him, and I do not want to cut him completely out of her life, but if I found out he abused her, I could never live with myself.
Shortly before we were married my ex was convicted of Rape 3. I knew this going into the relationship.
During the time we were together, he failed polygraphs repeatedly (13 times) on having sexual contact with minors. (Which was confusing, because we were together most of the time, and he had no contact with minors that I knew of.) Part of me has never trusted him. He had some pretty lose morals to begin with.
He never wanted kids, and it was a surprise when we found out we were pregnant 5 years after we were married. She is now 2 and a half. By the time our daughter had been born, he had completed his Sex Offender Registration classes, but is still not listed as having graduated because he still owes the state money. Because of the nature of his crime, he is required to register as a sex offender for life.
My ex and I separated in April. Our separation involved him cheating on me with multiple other people, him trying to coerce me into swinging, becoming angry and aggressive when I refused, and just a general distrust of him.
He never really showed my daughter much affection, and it was only after we separated that he ever showed any real interest in her life. Even still, he has not been around to see her at all in the last month. The last time he spent time with her was New Years Eve.
I have started filling out the divorce paperwork, and I am to the point of visitation and custody. Because my ex never really showed her any affection, and did not really want kids in the first place it was agreed that I would have full custody.
He is now stating that he wants overnight visitation, and unsupervised visits with her. I am worried. Part of me does not trust him alone with my daughter. I am also worried about him becoming violent if I tell him why I do not want her to be unsupervised with him.
Is he required to have visitation time? She does love him, and I do not want to cut him completely out of her life, but if I found out he abused her, I could never live with myself.