Lostridgegirl
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Wisconsin
My ex-husband and I have 50/50 custody. Over the past 4yrs my daugther has been coming home telling me strange stories of what has been happening at my ex's house. I won't get into all of them, my current husband told me that maybe I should start audio taping my conversations w/ my daugter because over time we keep forgeting things and we should start keeping records of all of this "strange" behavior. My daughter likes to have us talk about things before she goes to bed so I thought that I would use the digital recorder my husband bought me, she didn't know I was taping the conversation. In this conversation my daughter told me that her dad would sleep w/ her and that he would put his hands down the back of her underwear and massage her privates. I called the police and they had a social worker video tape her statement but my daughter didn't tell them everything and she thought that her dad was getting in trouble over him losing his temper but not sexual assaulting her. He has been grooming her over the years and she thinks this is normal behavior for father/daugther relationship. Due to the fact the she didn't know the social worker at all and she was scared that she would get her dad in trouble she only said he rubbed her buttocks in the video tape. Due this fact the D.A. doesn't think we have a strong enough case. My question is this;
Should I use the audio tape I have as evidence, or would it look bad that I taped my daughter without her knowledge?
People have said that his angle might be that I'm manipulating my daughter. Would the audio tape help or hurt me? It is clear in the tape that I wasn't coaching her and that she volunteered this information. Help!!!
My ex-husband and I have 50/50 custody. Over the past 4yrs my daugther has been coming home telling me strange stories of what has been happening at my ex's house. I won't get into all of them, my current husband told me that maybe I should start audio taping my conversations w/ my daugter because over time we keep forgeting things and we should start keeping records of all of this "strange" behavior. My daughter likes to have us talk about things before she goes to bed so I thought that I would use the digital recorder my husband bought me, she didn't know I was taping the conversation. In this conversation my daughter told me that her dad would sleep w/ her and that he would put his hands down the back of her underwear and massage her privates. I called the police and they had a social worker video tape her statement but my daughter didn't tell them everything and she thought that her dad was getting in trouble over him losing his temper but not sexual assaulting her. He has been grooming her over the years and she thinks this is normal behavior for father/daugther relationship. Due to the fact the she didn't know the social worker at all and she was scared that she would get her dad in trouble she only said he rubbed her buttocks in the video tape. Due this fact the D.A. doesn't think we have a strong enough case. My question is this;
Should I use the audio tape I have as evidence, or would it look bad that I taped my daughter without her knowledge?
People have said that his angle might be that I'm manipulating my daughter. Would the audio tape help or hurt me? It is clear in the tape that I wasn't coaching her and that she volunteered this information. Help!!!