This is a long story, but I will try my best to condense it. I am 27, my daughter is 6. We live in Kansas City, KS. We are from a small town 100 miles south. Her father and I have been "broken up" since 2006. We both moved to KC in 2007 and shared responsibilities. We never had a court order on custody. He moved back to small town, got new girlfriend. Then doesn't pay anymore or speak to me. I try to go through SRS/child support enforcement. He slaps me with the court claim first to establish his parental rights. We go to court in small town (different county). The terms are: I have her Sunday evening 6pm-Friday eve. 6pm, and we meet half way every week so she can go to small town. I only get $44/week in child support.
Now, the problem I see with this is A. I am by no means getting enough money to support her. He works for his girlfriend's dad's private business and on paper they claim he makes $10/hr (which is very untrue) Also, the small amount of child support I do get barely covers the gas to make the 200 mile trip every week. His mom is the one who meets me most of the time. If I had been able to afford a good lawyer and went to court in Kansas City (where everything is twice as expensive) I would have faired much better.
B. I have always wanted to move away from KS. The ice, snow, lack of anything worthwhile, makes me sad. I want to raise my daughter in a beautiful warm place and go to school. I had always planned on moving back to the west coast, but having a child put a hold on everything. I at least got out of small town and into KC, which is a huge improvement.
So, I NEED to go back to court and get things changed. They are just not fair. I'm the one who takes care of her, takes her to school, takes her to the Dr. etc...He doesn't even know where we live, and I feel it's not fair to make me stay in KS when I'm miserable. I have great opportunities in Arizona. I would let him have her every summer, break, x-mas, whatever! as long as I could go have a chance at a better life for us. I have called lawyers around here and they all want 1500 upfront at least. What do I need to do? What are my chances of being able to move out of state with her? My last resort is to beg him.
I am struggling to make ends meet, while he drives her hummer and live in a house they just bought (or her parents bought) I'm all alone up here and take care of everything, he has grandma's, sisters, and so on that have one of the days she is there on the weekend.