lamagnolia
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? Louisiana
I had a relationship with a man 3 years ago which resulted in my beautiful 3 year old daughter. At the time of conception, we were in a new relationship and both agreed that we didn't want to get married at that time, and that I would be the primary parent for our daughter. We both moved to different states, during my pregnancy and have been seperate ever since. He did not see her until she was about 18 months old and has never paid child support nor has he requested any regular visits. His last visit with her was in January and have not heard lately about any future visits. I am preparing to send her to a private school beginning in the fall, since the public schools in my city are plagued with violence and poor education standards. It will be very difficult for me to pay 100% of the tuition costs and I have considered requesting assistance from him, however, I do not want to open a door of custody and visitations that would require me to send her to another state during holidays or weekend visits with him. In the past, when I have mentioned the lack of support I have received from him, he often responds with a semi-threat of court and formalized visitations. Don't get me wrong - I have never discouraged him from seeing or visiting her, however, since I don't feel his inconsistent interest in her is healthy for her - I am a little concerned in placing him in her life on a full time / regular basis. Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated...
I had a relationship with a man 3 years ago which resulted in my beautiful 3 year old daughter. At the time of conception, we were in a new relationship and both agreed that we didn't want to get married at that time, and that I would be the primary parent for our daughter. We both moved to different states, during my pregnancy and have been seperate ever since. He did not see her until she was about 18 months old and has never paid child support nor has he requested any regular visits. His last visit with her was in January and have not heard lately about any future visits. I am preparing to send her to a private school beginning in the fall, since the public schools in my city are plagued with violence and poor education standards. It will be very difficult for me to pay 100% of the tuition costs and I have considered requesting assistance from him, however, I do not want to open a door of custody and visitations that would require me to send her to another state during holidays or weekend visits with him. In the past, when I have mentioned the lack of support I have received from him, he often responds with a semi-threat of court and formalized visitations. Don't get me wrong - I have never discouraged him from seeing or visiting her, however, since I don't feel his inconsistent interest in her is healthy for her - I am a little concerned in placing him in her life on a full time / regular basis. Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated...