stringplucker
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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio
I live in PA, my son's mother lives in OH. Custody was decided in Ohio, and it was determined that our son should live with me in PA. That happened in 2011. There were more children involved then, but two are now adults. The last involved child is 16 years old. Papers say that summertime visitation is every other week. Mom refuses to exercise visitation for periods of time less than 5 days in a row
2012 Summertime was 5 weeks there, 5 weeks here, agreed to by me as a peace offering. She didn't ask, I offered.
2013 Summertime was every other week as written in the standard order
2014, Summertime was every other week, with two instances where I had her drop our son off at my mothers for a week, about 3 miles away from her, then pick him back up.
2014 worked out so that his mom didn't have to incur transportation cost. It also worked out so our son could see his grandma. Things have changed since last year. Now our son has two different jobs, plus a 1 week YoungLife camp. One job is on the weekends at a paintball field, where he's a ref for parties that come in. He normally works 8 hour days, and works every weekend. His other job is a server as a restaurant. He's been employed by the first job since the end of summer 2014, and the second job since February of this year.
He has expressed to me and his mom that he has no desire to go to Ohio for visitations because it would cause issues with his employment and YoungLife camp. He's told his mom that since she doesn't come see him, he sees no point and ruining his jobs to come see her.
She threatened to take this to court so she can get 5 weeks in a row, even though she ignores Spring, Christmas, Thanksgiving, and other holidays and vacations from school. I told him I'd fight in which ever manner he wanted me to...and he doesn't want to go.
This all is happening on the tail of a child support adjustment. Her income has proven much, much higher than she led on, and CS has increased from $150 to $450 per month. During the adjustment hearing, she hinted to a future hearing for custody, because she wasn't interested in paying that amount of support.
IMHO, she's grasping at straws on the CS issue, and if custody is filed for, that she will not enjoy the outcome...there's a reason I was given custody after 9 years of her having the children.
However...how is employment factored in concerning summertime visitation? Will he have to go, or do the courts protect the child and allow employment during situations like this? It wouldn't be an issue if we lived nearby, but 265 miles apart creates this dilemma.
I appreciate any advice in advance....
I live in PA, my son's mother lives in OH. Custody was decided in Ohio, and it was determined that our son should live with me in PA. That happened in 2011. There were more children involved then, but two are now adults. The last involved child is 16 years old. Papers say that summertime visitation is every other week. Mom refuses to exercise visitation for periods of time less than 5 days in a row
2012 Summertime was 5 weeks there, 5 weeks here, agreed to by me as a peace offering. She didn't ask, I offered.
2013 Summertime was every other week as written in the standard order
2014, Summertime was every other week, with two instances where I had her drop our son off at my mothers for a week, about 3 miles away from her, then pick him back up.
2014 worked out so that his mom didn't have to incur transportation cost. It also worked out so our son could see his grandma. Things have changed since last year. Now our son has two different jobs, plus a 1 week YoungLife camp. One job is on the weekends at a paintball field, where he's a ref for parties that come in. He normally works 8 hour days, and works every weekend. His other job is a server as a restaurant. He's been employed by the first job since the end of summer 2014, and the second job since February of this year.
He has expressed to me and his mom that he has no desire to go to Ohio for visitations because it would cause issues with his employment and YoungLife camp. He's told his mom that since she doesn't come see him, he sees no point and ruining his jobs to come see her.
She threatened to take this to court so she can get 5 weeks in a row, even though she ignores Spring, Christmas, Thanksgiving, and other holidays and vacations from school. I told him I'd fight in which ever manner he wanted me to...and he doesn't want to go.
This all is happening on the tail of a child support adjustment. Her income has proven much, much higher than she led on, and CS has increased from $150 to $450 per month. During the adjustment hearing, she hinted to a future hearing for custody, because she wasn't interested in paying that amount of support.
IMHO, she's grasping at straws on the CS issue, and if custody is filed for, that she will not enjoy the outcome...there's a reason I was given custody after 9 years of her having the children.
However...how is employment factored in concerning summertime visitation? Will he have to go, or do the courts protect the child and allow employment during situations like this? It wouldn't be an issue if we lived nearby, but 265 miles apart creates this dilemma.
I appreciate any advice in advance....
