What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Michigan
I took my 12 year old to a therapist because he has always struggled going to dads. It's gotten so bad in the past year, that he is so stressed out days before going to a visit, that he comes up with fake illnesses and every excuse he can think of why he can't go. I was not getting anywhere with the child, so upon suggestion by the childs Ped, I took him to a therapist.
I gave the therapist a complete background on the situation. It was domestic violence, but all I could prove was violence against me. There was always verbal abuse to the children, still is, but the court nor CPS had found that to be enough. I gave the therapist a run down of what has gone on in court, what little the court has done to this point.
After the first session the therapist told me to call this lawyer they were recommending. Go see the lawyer and have the lawyer stop visits. All that was based on was the child saying dad is mean, yells, screams, talks bad about me, makes him pick and choose between mom and dad, if he won't take sides, dad tells him then you don't love me, stuff like this. So again I went over with the therapist that the court has heard all of this, my child has to go to visits, I am looking for help in teaching him to cope with the visits and with dad being mean. I did call the lawyer, but can't get an appt until after the holiday's.
Last night was the third session, the therapist called CPS. Told the child that they were calling CPS to. Then told me they are a mandated reporter, I said I knew that, but what did you find that you needed to report. The child told the therapist that when they are there dad drinks and takes pills and gets mean, yells, screams and more of the verbal abuse.
Tonight is dads start of parenting time for Christmas, he has from 6pm until 9pm on Christmas eve. Now my son is really upset and scared to go, cause he told and dad is going to get in trouble and be even meaner. This my son gets from dad saying if you tell on what goes on in this house and I get in trouble, I will make you pay. I had a heck of a time getting him off to school this morning. The school then called he is in the office says he is sick and wants to go home. I talked to the school and to my son, and he is still there, cause he is not really sick, just all upset about tonight.
I am feeling now that this route is making matters worse. Should I stick with this therapist? Wait and see if CPS finds something? Is this enough that the child is telling the therapist for court or CPS?
Any advice is badly needed.