What is the name of your state?
What is the name of your state? NC
So, the story: I have a son with an ex girlfriend. After thinking things over, I am deciding not to fight her moving to another state with our son b/c 1) I don't have the money to hire a lawyer to do it and 2)I realize that if I WERE to fight it and win and keep her in state she would be miserable, take it out on me and we would continue the fighting we been doing and that is NOT in our son's best interest. Also, she says she's going to marry a guy (who seems like a great guy) who will be (or is already- I don't know) making X amount of money- and it is a lot- and I know, at this point in my life, I can not hope to provide that kind of money and the better situation it will provide for my son.
Right now I still have rights to my son and am working on paying back owed child support ( I didn't have a job for a few months) and have started paying regular payments to his mother again.
She is moving so far away that regular trips, even if required by court, would be terrible b/c my son would spend as much time travelling as seeing me (she has offered to pay for webcams for my computer and the one being set up for him, so I will always be able to talk to him and see him).
My question is what does terminating rights really do?
She says that terminating rights will be a benefit to him b/c when she marries her fiance, he will be able to adopt him and in the event of some accident that injures her and our son, and if she were unconscious, the fiance (hypothetically her husband at this point) would then be able to give the go ahead for any procedure needed to do more than keep our son alive (in the even that something terrible like that were to happen). She says otherwise the doctors would do no more than keep him alive while they tried to find a way to contact me.
So what IS the deal? And if I terminate rights does that mean A: she's not legally required to do anything like let me see him or talk to him, and B: she claims I would not have to pay any support. I've read enough on here to make me think that is not true and she's just trying to take advantage of my tight money situation right now to completely block him out of my life and me from his.
Are there any gurantees of being able to see my son if I terminate rights? Is this "accident situation" a real scenario? Does terminating rights terminate obligated support? Money's tight right now, but I'm going to school to get a better job, so I expect that to change within the year so that the support amount is really not a big deal. Is there some kind of agreement where I could require her to facilitate the contact with my son that she claims she will in exchange for terminating my rights IF it really is in his best interest?
Thanks for any help, answers, constructive ideas.
All you who roam the boards looking to rip into people- just keep roaming. I'm not in the mood for your juvenile, immature, knee-jerk reactions to what you THINK you know about this situation.