Texas
Harris County
My sons father has recently told me how he had incest/phedophillia type of fantasies. Mainly that he would have a daughter as young as 5 that would be trained to serve him. In his fantasy he and I were together and our son would service me and we would have sex as a family.
Of course I found this to be disgusting but didn't really know how to process it. I didn't know if he was just trying to mess with me or what. I also figured since he seemed to be more into the thought of doing things to his daughter or a girl our son was safe... idk.. I know I UNDER reacted at first, and definitely tried to rationalize my sons safety at first.
The Father is a self admitted sex addict, and has made it clear that he intends to only use/sleep with various women that are on his 'level' sexually.
The court order says that our son (now 17 months old) is only to see his Dad from 8-8 on Saturdays. Since our son has adjusted to seeing him well since the visits started 5 months ago, I started letting his Dad take him over nights Saturday-Sunday. I've made it clear that due to his Dads unhealthy sexual life style, lack of a desire for a normal relationship and more importantly his secret fantasy to involve kids in sex he is not to bring any females around our son during his visits. Really, i would think most good parents wouldn't combine family time with dating or booty calls, however he is a man who needs to be told.
Despite my reasonable requests I discovered that he did infact have one of his sex partners with my son and himself this past weekend. I am upset by this not because I am jealous, he is a sick man and I have no desire to be with him, but more out of fear of what he might do in front of our child or what could happen if he finds a woman as sick as him... I don't even want to type what that might be.
I'm legally obligated to let him take our son no matter what on Saturdays and that is all he will get since I have made it clear the over night visitation I was allowing will no longer continue. Still when our son turns 3 I have no way to protect him and even now all I can think is he still has 12 hours a week to expose our child to sexually explicit behaviors. I do want my son to have a Father, but at the same time this isn't the man I thought I knew and it also isn't so good to have him around if he's going to bring his sex addiction into the picture during his time with our son either. It's not healthy, it's disrespectful to our son and it's not setting a good example for how a man should behave either... maybe that's just my opinion.
I am torn. I have no evidence of our conversation. As far as I know he hasn't hurt anyone or our son, but may have potentially exposed him to sexual behaviors and if he hasn't yet who is to say he won't in the future??
I'm not sure what recourse I have in this situation or if I'm just over reacting?
I just don't want my son to end up with the same issues his Father has and I certainly don't want him to suffer any kind of sexual abuse or exposure either..
Any help is greatly appreciated.
Harris County
My sons father has recently told me how he had incest/phedophillia type of fantasies. Mainly that he would have a daughter as young as 5 that would be trained to serve him. In his fantasy he and I were together and our son would service me and we would have sex as a family.
Of course I found this to be disgusting but didn't really know how to process it. I didn't know if he was just trying to mess with me or what. I also figured since he seemed to be more into the thought of doing things to his daughter or a girl our son was safe... idk.. I know I UNDER reacted at first, and definitely tried to rationalize my sons safety at first.
The Father is a self admitted sex addict, and has made it clear that he intends to only use/sleep with various women that are on his 'level' sexually.
The court order says that our son (now 17 months old) is only to see his Dad from 8-8 on Saturdays. Since our son has adjusted to seeing him well since the visits started 5 months ago, I started letting his Dad take him over nights Saturday-Sunday. I've made it clear that due to his Dads unhealthy sexual life style, lack of a desire for a normal relationship and more importantly his secret fantasy to involve kids in sex he is not to bring any females around our son during his visits. Really, i would think most good parents wouldn't combine family time with dating or booty calls, however he is a man who needs to be told.
Despite my reasonable requests I discovered that he did infact have one of his sex partners with my son and himself this past weekend. I am upset by this not because I am jealous, he is a sick man and I have no desire to be with him, but more out of fear of what he might do in front of our child or what could happen if he finds a woman as sick as him... I don't even want to type what that might be.
I'm legally obligated to let him take our son no matter what on Saturdays and that is all he will get since I have made it clear the over night visitation I was allowing will no longer continue. Still when our son turns 3 I have no way to protect him and even now all I can think is he still has 12 hours a week to expose our child to sexually explicit behaviors. I do want my son to have a Father, but at the same time this isn't the man I thought I knew and it also isn't so good to have him around if he's going to bring his sex addiction into the picture during his time with our son either. It's not healthy, it's disrespectful to our son and it's not setting a good example for how a man should behave either... maybe that's just my opinion.
I am torn. I have no evidence of our conversation. As far as I know he hasn't hurt anyone or our son, but may have potentially exposed him to sexual behaviors and if he hasn't yet who is to say he won't in the future??
I'm not sure what recourse I have in this situation or if I'm just over reacting?
I just don't want my son to end up with the same issues his Father has and I certainly don't want him to suffer any kind of sexual abuse or exposure either..
Any help is greatly appreciated.