HOwever OP needs to get that portion clarified in order to avoid using vacation time. I could see a judge holding BOTH mother and father in contempt if any other person is at the exchanges except THEM or the child.
Parents should remember 3 things: Love your kids more than you hate your ex; when you have children the relationship with the other parent is until death; your children determine what type of nursing home you end up in.
Nothing stated by me should be taken as giving you legal advice or forming an attorney/client relationship.
Attorney-GAL in Ohio.
I've removed the knife from my back, polished it, and will one day return it -- long after you think I have forgotten.