JJAlp said:
Actually, I am one of the above, and given the experiences I've had with him, I think I'm in a better place to judge his fitness than you. I came here for legal advice and figured people here might be helpful--why are you even here if all you're interested in doing is better mean and critical?
Because when people have babies without the legal protection of marriage then it's the law's decision who controlls, NOT the parents. And in this case, it's not YOUR decision whether or not the man you had sex with and produced a baby with is a viable father, it's the courts.
And without a clear showing of danger to the child, he WILL get custody.
But, for the sake of argument, let's say he doesn't. That still will not give you the right to 'will' your children. There are clear lines of succession in cases like these defined in your state statutes and if you hadn't been so pissy I would have gladly quoted them for you.
Now you can look for yourself. But 'friend' isn't on the list. So, again, you lose.