What is the name of your state? IL
Hello everyone, 27 mature male here. My sitution is, my g/f and I have been together for about 2 1/2 years, she younger,20. Our relationship hasn,t been very good, alot of arguements. Mainly because she's very immature, as she dropped out of H.S. can't hold a job more than 2 months. Most of our fights stem from me pushing her to do good for herself. She never had a stable home life, mother almost wants nothing to do with her. Her mother is an emotional wreck herself, attempted suicide in the past, my e/x witnessed it. Through our entire relationship I never seen the inside of her home due to " it's way to messy" so her and her mother say. I on the other hand I been with the same union contractor for 8 years, made foreman 2 years ago, bought my own house at 24. Very responsable in life. My family upbringing was your classic " Leave it to Beaver" house. Guess I seen her as someone who needed help. Well 2 months ago her and I had baby boy ( unplanned, so much for being responsable man huh?) Even during the pregnacy we had our arguements and as always I try to walk away before an arguements turns to a fight, but she stands at the door and won't allow me to leave, and it gets worst from there. Well last week " it" happened again. But this time she got violent, kicking, punching you name it, even in front of the baby. I was so hurt to see she could keep on like that after I begged her to stop in front of the baby like that,she had me in tears, but it didn't phase her. When she's mad she's mad and there is no reasoning with her.
That was the last straw, now that the baby is here I won't have that fighting like that, and emotionally I can't put up with it anymore either. Getting violent in front of the baby was it , I'm done with her. I would love to have custody of our son, I wouldnt think she'd mistreat him, but everyday life for him would be better with me. without her mother being there when she was young I feel there's a missing gap in her life she doesnt know about. My parents are behind me 100%. offered me to move back in if i could get custody. My mother would sit im at work. She wants to take the baby back at her house with her mother. Now " the house is fine for a baby" she says. Or she'll find somewhere else adventually to live thats better. I really need to know how hard it would be for a father to get joint custody with him living wth me and my parents home?I've heard alot of horror stories about it. And she can't afford a lawyer, are there public defenders her for sitution?
please help,
Jimmy
Hello everyone, 27 mature male here. My sitution is, my g/f and I have been together for about 2 1/2 years, she younger,20. Our relationship hasn,t been very good, alot of arguements. Mainly because she's very immature, as she dropped out of H.S. can't hold a job more than 2 months. Most of our fights stem from me pushing her to do good for herself. She never had a stable home life, mother almost wants nothing to do with her. Her mother is an emotional wreck herself, attempted suicide in the past, my e/x witnessed it. Through our entire relationship I never seen the inside of her home due to " it's way to messy" so her and her mother say. I on the other hand I been with the same union contractor for 8 years, made foreman 2 years ago, bought my own house at 24. Very responsable in life. My family upbringing was your classic " Leave it to Beaver" house. Guess I seen her as someone who needed help. Well 2 months ago her and I had baby boy ( unplanned, so much for being responsable man huh?) Even during the pregnacy we had our arguements and as always I try to walk away before an arguements turns to a fight, but she stands at the door and won't allow me to leave, and it gets worst from there. Well last week " it" happened again. But this time she got violent, kicking, punching you name it, even in front of the baby. I was so hurt to see she could keep on like that after I begged her to stop in front of the baby like that,she had me in tears, but it didn't phase her. When she's mad she's mad and there is no reasoning with her.
That was the last straw, now that the baby is here I won't have that fighting like that, and emotionally I can't put up with it anymore either. Getting violent in front of the baby was it , I'm done with her. I would love to have custody of our son, I wouldnt think she'd mistreat him, but everyday life for him would be better with me. without her mother being there when she was young I feel there's a missing gap in her life she doesnt know about. My parents are behind me 100%. offered me to move back in if i could get custody. My mother would sit im at work. She wants to take the baby back at her house with her mother. Now " the house is fine for a baby" she says. Or she'll find somewhere else adventually to live thats better. I really need to know how hard it would be for a father to get joint custody with him living wth me and my parents home?I've heard alot of horror stories about it. And she can't afford a lawyer, are there public defenders her for sitution?
please help,
Jimmy
