What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio (Hamilton County).
I am a young mom with two young children, one daughter who will turn one next month, and a son who was born two weeks ago. They both have the same father. Dad is on daughter's birth certificate and he signed an AOP, but he has not met son and is not on son's birth certificate. After our daughter was born, we tried to make our relationship work, and I ended up pregnant again. Stupid, I know. When we found out, dad and I broke up. I filed for child support, and I told dad to file for visitation through the courts, as he had made me very nervous over several visits (he would bring her back much later than he was supposed to, and once I came to pick her up and found her screaming with a dirty diaper in her carseat while dad was playing video games with his headphones on). After an incident where he threatened to kill himself and took off driving drunk (without the kids) I told him that I was uncomfortable with him being alone with our daughter and he needed to file for visitation. Our court date is tomorrow. He somehow came up for the money with a lawyer, even though he claimed to be unemployed in CS court, and he wants 50/50 custody of both kids.
His attorney is a public defender who represented his brother a few years ago for something else. He doesn't do family law. I'm not sure how he can request visitation for SON when he isn't on the birth certificate, especially since I haven't even been able to file for CS since he doesn't have his SS card yet!
Will it be possible for him to get 50/50 custody without cause? He has only asked to see his daughter twice since January, and halfway through the day where he wanted her (IE - it's Saturday afternoon and he texts and asks "Can I see DAUGHTER today?"). He hasn't asked to see his son at all.
He lives with his friend and his friend's mom right now. He is 21 and I am 20. He is out every night until 2 or 3 in the morning, judging from his facebook, and I don't want him pawning our children off on any Joe off the street who will take them during his time.
I am planning on going in and requesting mediation. I know he will have time with the kids, and that is fine. Can someone please tell me if you think the following is unreasonable?
1. DAD be required to attend parenting classes due to his lack of familiarity with infants and toddlers.
2. DAD be required to take anger management classes due to his temper and the fact that it was his family who stated that it was not safe for DAUGHTER to be alone in his care.
3. DAD to have DAUGHTER every other weekend from Friday at 6pm to Sunday at 6pm. SON will begin having overnights when he is one year old. He may have SON from 10:00-6:00 on his Saturdays until then.
4. One night every other week (non visitation weeks) from 5:30 to 8:30
5. At NO point will SON or DAUGHTER be allowed to be inside a moving go kart without the MOM's permission (his family has a gokart racing team. They already have purchased a gokart for our daughter - it is terrifying).
6. DAD does all driving for weekday visits. DAD will pick up for weekend visit and MOM will pick up.
7. No out of state vacations until both children are five. (this is due to the fact that he wants to take the children to New Mexico, where his mother lives with a heroin addict in what basically amounts to a trap house)
8. DAD must keep the children overnight during his visits unless he asks MOM if she would like them back during this time.
9. No extended parenting time until the children are two years of age. Two consecutive weeks may not be taken until age 5.
10. DAD must provide proof that he has appropriate car seats for each child as well as an appropriate sleeping place for overnight visits.
Once both children are two, Ohio standard parenting plan (through the juvenile courts) will be followed.
I am a young mom with two young children, one daughter who will turn one next month, and a son who was born two weeks ago. They both have the same father. Dad is on daughter's birth certificate and he signed an AOP, but he has not met son and is not on son's birth certificate. After our daughter was born, we tried to make our relationship work, and I ended up pregnant again. Stupid, I know. When we found out, dad and I broke up. I filed for child support, and I told dad to file for visitation through the courts, as he had made me very nervous over several visits (he would bring her back much later than he was supposed to, and once I came to pick her up and found her screaming with a dirty diaper in her carseat while dad was playing video games with his headphones on). After an incident where he threatened to kill himself and took off driving drunk (without the kids) I told him that I was uncomfortable with him being alone with our daughter and he needed to file for visitation. Our court date is tomorrow. He somehow came up for the money with a lawyer, even though he claimed to be unemployed in CS court, and he wants 50/50 custody of both kids.
His attorney is a public defender who represented his brother a few years ago for something else. He doesn't do family law. I'm not sure how he can request visitation for SON when he isn't on the birth certificate, especially since I haven't even been able to file for CS since he doesn't have his SS card yet!
Will it be possible for him to get 50/50 custody without cause? He has only asked to see his daughter twice since January, and halfway through the day where he wanted her (IE - it's Saturday afternoon and he texts and asks "Can I see DAUGHTER today?"). He hasn't asked to see his son at all.
He lives with his friend and his friend's mom right now. He is 21 and I am 20. He is out every night until 2 or 3 in the morning, judging from his facebook, and I don't want him pawning our children off on any Joe off the street who will take them during his time.
I am planning on going in and requesting mediation. I know he will have time with the kids, and that is fine. Can someone please tell me if you think the following is unreasonable?
1. DAD be required to attend parenting classes due to his lack of familiarity with infants and toddlers.
2. DAD be required to take anger management classes due to his temper and the fact that it was his family who stated that it was not safe for DAUGHTER to be alone in his care.
3. DAD to have DAUGHTER every other weekend from Friday at 6pm to Sunday at 6pm. SON will begin having overnights when he is one year old. He may have SON from 10:00-6:00 on his Saturdays until then.
4. One night every other week (non visitation weeks) from 5:30 to 8:30
5. At NO point will SON or DAUGHTER be allowed to be inside a moving go kart without the MOM's permission (his family has a gokart racing team. They already have purchased a gokart for our daughter - it is terrifying).
6. DAD does all driving for weekday visits. DAD will pick up for weekend visit and MOM will pick up.
7. No out of state vacations until both children are five. (this is due to the fact that he wants to take the children to New Mexico, where his mother lives with a heroin addict in what basically amounts to a trap house)
8. DAD must keep the children overnight during his visits unless he asks MOM if she would like them back during this time.
9. No extended parenting time until the children are two years of age. Two consecutive weeks may not be taken until age 5.
10. DAD must provide proof that he has appropriate car seats for each child as well as an appropriate sleeping place for overnight visits.
Once both children are two, Ohio standard parenting plan (through the juvenile courts) will be followed.
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