Okay so a little bit of background information. A friend of mine had a child out of wedlock it was a one night stand, the mother refused to put him on the birth certificate because he chose not to stay with her after she got pregnant but would occasionally let the child come over when it was convenient for her or she needed a break. It was like pulling teeth to get to see the child and she wouldnt give up holidays or even fathers day. One time he came over with a huge red handprint on his back which was still there after an hour car ride and another he had a bruise under his eye that she claimed was from dropping his sippy cup on it while lying down. Also every time he comes over hes dirty(like stinky not had a bath) and during winter he was not wearing a coat, socks, or shoes. So after asking to be put on the birth certificate and being given excuse after excuse for a year he went to DSS and filed child support on himself to start paternity and be put on there. So child support was supposed to come out of his pay check twice a month $50 each time but come to find out it didnt come out the first two months like it was supposed to but she didnt tell him she never got it when he asked. After not receiving it the first month she filed a complaint for non child support payment and he had to go to court (which did nothing because he paid the balance before the court date). As soon as she knew about him filing for child support she quit her job. Shes almost 28, two kids three days shy of being a year apart (one which is his), no job, and living at home. Now that she has got her first month of support her mom emailed him with a bunch of bogus excuses why he cant come over like the abandonment crying and the jealousy from the other sibling when he comes back home...he has spent the night with him since he was a month old, hes now a year and a half and thats the first thats ever been said about the crying and stuff. Her mother also said that if he or his family want to see him they have to make the hour drive to see him at their house eventhough they cant afford to make that drive all the time and he has another child. Question being since the child was born out of wedlock, paternity was established, and they filled out an affidavit to put him on the birth certificate, and no custody/visitation order is in place if he goes to get the child to spend time with him and just decided not to bring him home when she says is that considered kidnapping or what? He has not seen the child in a month now and the mother will not return calls/texts/facebook messages/facebook wall posts or any form of contact that him and his family members have made.