I am the ncp and the one who moved out of the county. How does that work?
The divorce was final Friday. My ex not only gained the right to determine residence of our 5 year old but also gained equal visitation of my (not his bio child, but step child). The ruling for visitation went like this:
We trade Christmas, Thanksgiving, and Spring Break on odd even years
I get our 5 yr old the 3rd weekend of the month
he get's my 11 yr old the 1st weekend of the month
we trade months in the summer, June and July, on odd and even years.
So what happened was I lost time with my son. Not to mention to judge ordered that both children could fly (all for that! It's 1600 miles roundtrip) and that my 11 yr old could fly alone but our 5 yr old couldn't unti he is 7 (even though the airlines min age is 5). My ex is responsible for roundtrip expenses to see my 11 year old and p.u. and delivery, but I am have the same responsibility with our 5 year old. So that means I would have to buy 3 round trip airline tickets a month in order to see my son. On top of the child support ordered for me to pay that would take 1/2 my salary a month. So basically I will not be able to see my 5 year old but 3 times a year, for 2 years. The judge treated my 11 year old as if he were my ex's bio child expect for the fact that he doesn't have to pay child support. I told the judge that I had tried to get my ex to adopt the 11 year old some time back and he refused because if we divorced he didn't want to have to pay child support. He got it. He got the same benefits of being a parent as I did expect he doesn't have to support him. How's that for our judicial system?