What is the name of your state? California
Hello, I am hoping that someone can help me...
I have a soon to be 15 year old son who can't stand his father. I know that sounds harsh, but the ex is a hard core alcoholic who has put us through hell for the last 15 years. We have been divorced 8 years, and as expected, being divorced from the man was worse than being married to him.
When he is drunk, it is bad enought, but when sober, all hell breaks loose. He is very controlling and things have to be his way. I have accomodated him for the last 8 years just to make things easier for my son and me.
He has never really been involved in the kid's life. I have documented every second he has spent with our son, and it averages only 18-20 hours a year (his best year was 153 hours). He has the traditional EOW visitation set up in our divorce order.
Now here is the problem. He has decided that now since he is in another sober phase, that he wants to start taking his EOW visitation, and ever alternate week in the summer. The kid is having fits over this to the point of even seeing a school conselor to help him deal with the stress.
I have tried to talk with the ex about this and to set up a meeting with all three of us to try and come up with a solution to this visitation problem. He refused to talk to me and said he would only talk to the son. Instead of doing that, he scheduled us for mediation.
The ex tells the kid when he says he dosn't want to be around him that he doesn't know what he wants. He also has a problem with him doing his schoolwork around him and takes the books and locks them in his car. He has also told the kid that he will not be allowed to do homework at his house. He will have to go to the library. Last week he told him he was one "f--ked up kid!" because he didn't want to hang out at the mall with him.
We have all had enough of this now. The kid has told me that he would prefer to go to jail rather than spent any more time with him. He feels the company would be better. I am still making him see him at least once a weekend just to keep the peace until this mediation thing is over and I can file an OSC.
Here is my question...what do you think the chances are of my son being granted visitation of only 1 day a month (9-3) if we go to court? I do have calendars dating back to 1999 showing that he has never spent more than the 18 hours with him. In addition, he is also over $26,000 in arrears for CS, and an additional $10,000 for his extra expenses.What is the name of your state?
Hello, I am hoping that someone can help me...
I have a soon to be 15 year old son who can't stand his father. I know that sounds harsh, but the ex is a hard core alcoholic who has put us through hell for the last 15 years. We have been divorced 8 years, and as expected, being divorced from the man was worse than being married to him.
When he is drunk, it is bad enought, but when sober, all hell breaks loose. He is very controlling and things have to be his way. I have accomodated him for the last 8 years just to make things easier for my son and me.
He has never really been involved in the kid's life. I have documented every second he has spent with our son, and it averages only 18-20 hours a year (his best year was 153 hours). He has the traditional EOW visitation set up in our divorce order.
Now here is the problem. He has decided that now since he is in another sober phase, that he wants to start taking his EOW visitation, and ever alternate week in the summer. The kid is having fits over this to the point of even seeing a school conselor to help him deal with the stress.
I have tried to talk with the ex about this and to set up a meeting with all three of us to try and come up with a solution to this visitation problem. He refused to talk to me and said he would only talk to the son. Instead of doing that, he scheduled us for mediation.
The ex tells the kid when he says he dosn't want to be around him that he doesn't know what he wants. He also has a problem with him doing his schoolwork around him and takes the books and locks them in his car. He has also told the kid that he will not be allowed to do homework at his house. He will have to go to the library. Last week he told him he was one "f--ked up kid!" because he didn't want to hang out at the mall with him.
We have all had enough of this now. The kid has told me that he would prefer to go to jail rather than spent any more time with him. He feels the company would be better. I am still making him see him at least once a weekend just to keep the peace until this mediation thing is over and I can file an OSC.
Here is my question...what do you think the chances are of my son being granted visitation of only 1 day a month (9-3) if we go to court? I do have calendars dating back to 1999 showing that he has never spent more than the 18 hours with him. In addition, he is also over $26,000 in arrears for CS, and an additional $10,000 for his extra expenses.What is the name of your state?