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    ChildO'Mine is offline Junior Member
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    Voluntary termination of parental rights

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    I am the primary custodial parent of an 8 year old little girl and I am considering terminating my parental rights. (I have very good reasons too long to explain, but this decision is based on the best interest of my daughter.) I would just sign over custody however am unable to pay child support. In the state of Oklahoma what are the procedures for terminating parental rights voluntarily.... or are there other options available. thanks.
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    pthalo Guest

    stupid stupid stupid...

    I go away for a couple of months and come back to this shi*... you have got to be kidding me.. you have an eight-year-old daughter and you just want to get rid of her.. there is no reason or explanation, no matter how long that could excuse such a statement.

    from your continued commentary I get the feeling that you have no money and that is the reason.. pathetic.. get a job.. work harder.. you think that by ditching your child that you are doing what's best.. well you are wrong.. you are what this child needs. buck up and know that you aren't just living for you, you are living and supporting your daughter's future.. if you shirk that then maybe someone should voluntarily take away your right to live...
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    dito

    we are fighting to get riights just to see and child and you want to give one away.
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    I'm flabbergasted. How sad for your daughter. But the only way you can get out of supporting your daughter (i.e. paying the custodial parent child support) is if there is someone willing to step into your shoes by adopting.
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    After reading the rest of your posts..... I have to ask you - what do you think this will do to your other two children? To know that you could essentially abandon your daughter? Surely there's a way you can avoid this step - I'm sure we'd all be willing to brainstorm with you for ideas. But there has got to be a better way than turning your daughter over to be raised by a stranger.
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    Re: Voluntary termination of parental rights

    [QUOTE]Originally posted by ChildO'Mine
    [B]Oklahoma

    I am the primary custodial parent of an 8 year old little girl and I am considering terminating my parental rights. (I have very good reasons too long to explain, but this decision is based on the best interest of my daughter.)

    **A: ok, you could be a drug dealer/addict, mafia hitman, in the witness protection program, a sex offender, porno movie star, have 2 gay lovers, physically or mentally handicapped, on your deathbed, moving to join the Taliban, just got hired by the CIA,.... it really does not matter what the reason it.

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    I would just sign over custody however am unable to pay child support. In the state of Oklahoma what are the procedures for terminating parental rights voluntarily.... or are there other options available. thanks.

    **A: I would guess that maybe for one little tiny minute iota, that protecting the best interest of your daughter could be say, you providing child support? Or would that idea be just simply too wild and crazy?
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    bama100 Guest
    How sad for this child. You must be kin to mine or my hubby's ex'es
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    You guys have it all wrong!

    You have it all wrong. I am not some crazy monsterous lunatic!! I would never sign over custody to some stranger or just give her away for petes sake. I told you it was too long to explain in an open email forum. This child has ADHD, OCD, ODD, anxiety and clinical depression. She has stolen money from church, knocked a tooth out of my dogs head, lied, stolen, cheated, and deliberately tried to break up my marriage. She is a danger to my other children and gets worse with every year. She has beaten animals and other children. She is in counseling, on medication, and has just gone through extensive psychiatric testing. Her father, who is who I would send her to, has the means to give her the undivided attention she needs. He has a teacher for a wife, and they have no other children. Also, by signing over custody, she would not have to travel across 10 states and an ocean twice a year. My child needs stability and I thought that by letting her father raise her I could give her that. The reason why I am considering terminating parental rights is because her father is making my life a living hell and I figured a stable life with all the "turmoil" is what she needed. But I am not going to sit here and blabble on to a bunch of people that would rather assume the worst than just answer a question. I thought this was a Q & A legal advice column. Not a "lets kick her while shes down and out" column.
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    This is where I'm confused... In a different post, you were disturbed because Dad had to go to Saudi while your daughter was visiting him and stepMom wanted to take her on vacation - why do you now think (a) it will be more stable, and (b) stepMom is okay to raise your child but not take her on a trip? It doesn't make sense to me, I'm sorry.

    Again - the legal part is that while you can turn over custody and give up your right to visitation, you cannot terminate your responsibility to financially support your daughter unless her stepmother is willing to adopt her.

    And I still have to ask - how do you think it will help her to have her mother abandon her? I'm sorry - I simply cannot understand the rationale.
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    I totally agree Momma, My soon to be 11 year old son was diagmosed with adhd ( which I think is over rated) when he was in kindergarden, after about a half a year on med I took him off.
    After a few good ole fashion butt whoopings and alot of love and attention he now is an A & B. He still hyper, but I think it's because he is all boy, and I would not give him up for anythink in this world.
    Last edited by bama100; 11-22-2002 at 03:39 PM.
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    i am a parent of a child whom is ten with autisum. it is like taking care of a 15 month old in a 10 year olds body.

    he dad is not around - so i do have that to make it a little easier for me.

    but i wolud never give up my son up to his dad or anyone.

    he had had seizures since he was six weeks old.

    do you thgink she does bad thing to get your attention??

    kind of sounds like she might ha a problme with you other half, do she like him at all??

    do you think she might be on to many meds? with all that you say is wrong with her?

    seems like a lot for an adults problmes - but for her to be 8 and have so much going on -i am sure it is not easy for her.

    but keep in mind if you send her to her dad she will most likely hate you for the rest for her life- because she will think you don't love her and you love your step father more.

    my mom set me to live with my grandparents, my dad did not fight it so i feel like both don't give a **** about me at all just what makes them happy.

    i am not trying to jump on you again.

    just think about it really hard - you'll regret it i am sure.
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    Re: You guys have it all wrong!

    [QUOTE]Originally posted by ChildO'Mine
    [B]You have it all wrong. I am not some crazy monsterous lunatic!! I would never sign over custody to some stranger or just give her away for petes sake. I told you it was too long to explain in an open email forum. This child has ADHD, OCD, ODD, anxiety and clinical depression. She has stolen money from church, knocked a tooth out of my dogs head, lied, stolen, cheated, and deliberately tried to break up my marriage. She is a danger to my other children and gets worse with every year. She has beaten animals and other children. She is in counseling, on medication, and has just gone through extensive psychiatric testing. Her father, who is who I would send her to, has the means to give her the undivided attention she needs. He has a teacher for a wife, and they have no other children. Also, by signing over custody, she would not have to travel across 10 states and an ocean twice a year. My child needs stability and I thought that by letting her father raise her I could give her that. The reason why I am considering terminating parental rights is because her father is making my life a living hell and I figured a stable life with all the "turmoil" is what she needed. But I am not going to sit here and blabble on to a bunch of people that would rather assume the worst than just answer a question. I thought this was a Q & A legal advice column. Not a "lets kick her while shes down and out" column.

    **A: My apologies. I thought something was wrong with YOU.
    Since she is the problem why not just shoot her the next time you see her.
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    There you go!! Keep only those children who are perfect. Send any others to your wicked ex. That'll solve everyone's problems. NOT!!
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    "but this decision is based on the best interest of my daughter."


    I'm sorry, but I have yet to see where this is in HER best interest. OK, her father and stepmother have no other children, and she's a teacher. And....??? What makes this in the best interest of your child? How is her going to a home with no other siblings and a stepmother who is a teacher in her best interests? Going by your own post, and your own words, your daughter has, and I quote.... "stolen money from church, knocked a tooth out of my dogs head, lied, stolen, cheated, and deliberately tried to break up my marriage. She is a danger to my other children and gets worse with every year. She has beaten animals and other children. She is in counseling, on medication, and has just gone through extensive psychiatric testing" and has "ADHD, OCD, ODD, anxiety and clinical depression." Going by your post, it seems as if you want to give her to her father because it's in YOUR best interest.

    How in the hell can an 8 year old try to break up a marriage?? Who is the ADULT here? Perhaps, since my son has ADHD, anger management problems, has stolen money out of his dad's wallet, has kicked the dog, stepped on one of my cats and killed it, hit his younger sister in her broken arm, and cheated on his homework before, I should just disown him too..... No, I actually step up and BE the adult, correct him, and try to HELP him. Not just throw him away because he's "too much to handle". Christ lady, I'd LOVE to have my son with me everyday, and I don't CARE how much of a handful he is. I'm sorry you won't find what you're looking for on this board, but when a parent just wants to "give up" because the going gets rough, then we don't have any patience for that kind of thing. If you were a drug addict, homeless, mass murderer, in jail for God knows what, then we'd tell you yes, it IS in her best interest to go to her father. But have you ever stopped to think that maybe..... just maybe.... her antics have something to do with YOU, and the way she perceives your feelings about her? Perhaps you should BOTH go to counseling. Her for her mental problems, and you for your emotional ones.
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    I do not understand how anyone could want to give an 8 year old child to her father and never want anything to do with her. I do not care what kind of problems my child has or gets, I would never give her away. Your daughter did not ask to have these problems, and im sure she doesnt want them either, CAN SHE JUST GIVE THEM AWAY????????

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