What is the name of your state? NY
My son has been diagnosed with ADHD, and his father refuses to believe that he has any problem (though he has not attended even one appointment to the psychiatrist or therapist), so in consequence, does not give our son his medication as ordered. We have 50/50 custody (both physical and legal). Every time I pick up my son for his time with me, I find out that he is missing assignments from school, and is behind on a number of things like projects that he should have started already, and reading. He also refuses to practice his instrument - which my ex insists that he takes - even though he does not want to. By the way, our son is 11. I have tried talking with my ex, but he just blows me off. I am planning on getting ahold of the psychiatrist and asking for a note, requesting that he have his med at school in the morning. While I have no problem giving him his medication, he almost always misses it when at his dad's house. I believe simply having him take it at the school all the time, might get rid of this problem.
I know that my following issue is probably considered insignificant, but I am concerned about my son, because he complains to me that he is always tired, that he gets to bed around 11 pm at his father's house, because he has no set bedtime there. He also c/o stomach problems, which we have had him on medication for, and the MD stated he should eat a few hours before bed, not right before bed. Unfortunately, I often call to say goodnight to my son, and find out that at 9 pm they are just eating fast food takeout. If he continues to have medical problems (which I believe are related to poor eating habits and poor sleeping), and if a doctor agrees with me, is it reasonable to go back to court to get something in our custody agreement about these issues (his father not giving meds as ordered, and not feeding him or putting him to bed at a reasonable time). I know these are piddly issues. We have never had to go back to court, and have in general had no problems that have required me to consider going back to court. I am simply tired of hearing my son complain. He says horrible things about his father, and often says he wants to live with me (however he also has a 13 year old sister who wants to remain 50/50). I would love for things to remain 50/50 if he would simply try a little harder to do what the doctors see is best for our child.